Pain for the partner

HORSEHUNGshowoff: I too stick with people that are INTO SIZE and capable of handling it since I am known to like it rough, your length isnt a problem but your extreme thickness is , but use lots of LUBE and just go easy.


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Just a thought, and I don't know if it's true, but is Anal Ease a numbing agent at all? If it makes anal entry easier, it may help with vaginal pentration in your case. Since I have never used it, I'm just grasping at straws, but it's the only "real" suggestion I could come up with. I also feel strongly that finding a partner with whom you are compatible is vital. Personality, sexuality, common goals, all these things are fair to consider when choosing a mate, without any of the three, you will not likely find great happiness. If it's sex-only you're looking for tho, definitely look for the size queens!

VladtheImpaler: I'm 8.75 inches long, 6.5 around, and while I love being big, almost every girl I've been with finds it too much of a good thing. They almost always love looking at my cock, caressing it, and playing with it, but actual deep penetration is generally problematic. I do a lot of foreplay, lube, etc., but I still usually have to go very slow, which kills a lot of the fun for me, and rear entry seems to be the best position for me, though I'd rather look at her face than her back. Sex shouldn't be too calculating an activity; it needs to be spontaneous, which is hard if you're constantly reining yourself in. It can really be a problem if I get so turned on I can't control myself anymore and just start ramming away, which can be downright painful for the girl, which ruins it for me too. One girl told me that "when you fuck me it's like you're trying to kill me". This is a real mood-killer, as you'd expect, especially as I was honestly trying to be gentle with her. And just forget about anal sex. No girl has ever offered it to me and if vaginal sex is difficult, anal sex is probably impossible unless the girl is into serious pain. I know I'm not. They usually refuse to be on top as well, saying that I would go too far in. Only one girl ever wanted to do that, a wild and sexy girl I met on a trip to Italy. She climbed on top of my cock eagerly and rode me like crazy :) . I would bet she was a size queen as she never seemed bothered by my size, except once when she gently reminded me to enter her slowly. Without a doubt she gave me the best sex of my life. But true size queens are rare, despite what most people seem to think. I guess I'm just going to have to try holding onto the next size queen I find.

kenny: so how do you go about finding a size queen? ive never knowingly met one before

What a moron...please your boyfriend is an appetizer...if you have trouble taking his cock after 1 1/2 years your need to move on, grow up or something...be a man and grin and bear it...(now i am not a bottom but really your boyfriend should just turn you over and just slam it in like they do in prison.

It is gonna hurt but you will not have pleasure unless you go through that pain. I understand that bottoms crave for 9 inch cocks so if he isnt fucking you i am positive he is fucking others.

And if all else fails get drunk and it wont hurt so much....lube is your friend.

Do what i do, i give a back massage and then when the person is relaxed i slide my cock in their ass before they know what is happening. and if you should pull forward to get away from his cock, he can hold you down and follow you as you move forward...i think i am trying to say he should just rape you.

you are denying yourself a lot of pleasure, you are such a pussy (figuratively speaking not literally).

jtoobig: You're late in your advice, but thanks anyway. I've been fucked hard since. And it's not that it's been 1 1/2 years of trying. We had only tried twice, a few weeks before I posted. And by the way, I prefer not to tear anything back there so we went nice and slow and it was very good. I understand some of you fags out there just love to fuck, but some of us fags believe in love and waiting till the time is right. To each his own ... but you do things your way and I'll do mine my way.

suaige: I agree with Max. And it is nice to hear an opinion more like my own. I am very conservative and have only had a sexual relationship with my exwife. And have had any in over 8 years. One would expect a lot more liberality on a site like this but is nice to hear some familiarity.

Anyway to my point I am smaller, but still had size difficulty. mostly due to length. Also there may be reasons other than size. Women who were molested (as was my ex) often find sex painful. There is a medical term for it even but I can't think it. Its psycological not physical most of the time.

A couple things I did notice was this. She was dry so I thought get her aroused 1st might help. BUT, while fingering her one night I found arousal caused her to clamp down like a vise and then I was trying to get in through that. It worked much better after we stopped arousal first. Lube was always required for 3 years.

The other thing we did try was some what like some one mentioned was progressively larger sex toys. We just tried to stretch her out. I would get in and just stay there for 10 minutes before moving. It seemed to help ( except for once when I only lasted for 6). She wouldn't use anything artificial. The doc had given her something to stretch with, but it must have only been standard size, way to small, didn't do much.