Does it really matter? Are you trying to be the desire of every woman in the world? If you are, be prepared for disappointment. No man will ever achieve that. If not, chat up every girl who strikes you as hot. Many will bite, many will not. So what if Bette and I wouldn't be interested. (For the record, I do not ignore polite men, and would make you laugh and feel welcome at my table if you were nice and approached my group in a bar/lounge. But I wouldn't try to make a connection to you, and I wouldn't be attracted. Some of my friends would be though, if you're cute.) Learn to sort, and forget the ones who sort you out. You aren't looking for us anyway!