I think you REALLY need to figure out what you want in terms of your partners and sexual life. I mean, you need to figure out what is going to make you happy. You said you are bi leaning toward gay. So i assume you get more pleasure from a man then from a women. Have you been with a guy before?

If you're into guys more, it will most likely always be that way. No one said you have to come out to have a relationship with another guy. If you do lean toward men, what is the point of trying to push against it when you might meet someone who is a really good guy and may ultimately make you more happy?

I would say meet the guy and go from there. You can take it slow or just hang out or whatever. If nothing happens or you don't feel comfortable, then thats the way it is. But you should probably at least meet with him and see how things go. Just take it slow and explain to him the situation. I'm sure he will understand where you are at.