First post. I just wanted to affirm what the others said about being confident in yourself and your decisions. Don't let others define who or what you are. I'm really sorry to hear what happened with your first marriage -- I'm surprised you stuck it out that long.

I decided to save myself -- all of it -- for marriage, but it took me until I was 31 to find a wife. I've been married a couple decades now. Sex is awesome, it was well worth the wait, though I had a really hard time believing that when I was waiting. We have a very satisfying sex life, and still go at it once or twice a day after all these years. Most importantly, though, we're totally into each other, body and soul, with love, lust, and respect.

Hoping you find something exciting, fulfilling, and full of love.