05-10-2008
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Originally Posted by HyperHulk  I think people are congratulating him because he's 18yo and had his first sexual experience with another person and he enjoyed it. |
Of course he enjoyed it but it was not safe. It wasn't deadly, it just wasn't safe. This is a support group.
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Originally Posted by HyperHulk To be honest, if he were my son and shared that with me, I would definitely mention using condoms for intercourse and warning him about putting himself in situations where he may be accused of anything, but I would thank him for being open with me and congratulate him on his first sexual experience as well. | You would mention condoms for intercourse, but otherwise tell your child that oral is okay with anyone? Good luck with that! Quote:
Originally Posted by HyperHulk No the sex he had wasn't "safe" per se but it also wasn't "dangerous". | I agree. Quote:
Originally Posted by HyperHulk I would be a hypocrite if I started to chastise him for something that occurs in my own life. | You would be a hypocrite. Far too many people are "do as I say, not as I do" types. Quote:
Originally Posted by HyperHulk I presume Marley and Ms. Teacher that every person you've engaged in oral sex with has been using protection and that you knew each of your partner's histories and had proof of what they say--because people lie. | I'm not a hypocrite. I believe in condoms for oral or vaginal sex until mutual blood tests, then monogamy, followed by chucking the condoms. You can't tell just by looking at someone how "clean" they are. And asking a partner their history can sometimes be fruitless.
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Originally Posted by HyperHulk Yes, std's are very much a reality of the world. But reasonableness needs to enter the equation as well. People are going to have sex, few people will use protection with oral sex and few people will ever truly know their partner's sexual histories. The only truly safe sex is masturbation or someone would have to choose celibacy. I'm not going to stop having experiences because of what if's. Who would leave the house? There are what if's with a million things and can't be bound by fear. |
Why does everyone always say the only safe sex is masturbation or celibacy? LOL There is something called monogamy between two people who are clean of STD's and share current blood tests. For some reason I thought the members of this site were up on all the new things, but I'm reading a lot of antiquated responses that come from the 1950's when everything was innocent. Quote:
Originally Posted by HyperHulk But sexually his experience isn't any different than the majority of people's experience in the world--so if you're going to chastise him, then you're going to chastise everyone, repeatedly and grab yourself a mirror, cause you might need to have a real heart to heart with yourself too. | I could chastise the others but they're adults. It's not going to matter much to them, but the callous responses to an 18 year old are unnerving. Quote:
Originally Posted by Hellboy0 Thanks for that, Hyper. I was thinking very much the same myself. The guy's 18, folks. He's sure to have had some sort of Sex Ed. at school and 'sharing' here is also a good way for him to get our opinions and advice, none of which has been bad or inappropriate for a guy his age. | If he's had sex ed at school he didn't learn much or they didn't tell him enough. Or maybe he just got caught up in the moment. Whatever the reason, what he did was not all that safe. If she's a virgin like he said he was, then it was safe sex.
I think Rick Sowadsky's response was very reasonable.
Rick Sowadsky M.S.P.H., C.D.S, Answers to Safe Sex Questions
Can you get HIV from oral sex?
Frequently Asked Questions (I) - The Body
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