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Originally Posted by atph1984  I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and I just found out that he fantasizes about other men, some that are everyday people, and some celebrities. He argues that it is normal and simply human nature. I worry that it is a red flag that I do not satisfy him, sexually, or that he is unhappy with me. what do you think? |
I think you should relax.
Honestly, fantasizing is natural, normal, and usually harmless.
Are you telling us you never have fantasies? Actually, that's the red-flag.
It sounds like you are struggling to make your relationship be
everything that you think everyone else thinks it should be, rather than just letting it be the best relationship for the two of you.
Yeah, that's a bit awkwardly worded, but read it a couple of times. You've been told all your life that when you find "the one," nothing else will ever tempt you, because "the one" fulfills every need/want/desire. That's not the real world, that's a Harlequin Romance.
Even if you are on a diet, you can still look at the menu (or in some cases, even have a sample.) Just don't eat the whole cake.