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marleyisalegend · 6 Days Ago

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Originally Posted by Darpon

Marley, thank you so much for this post.

Honestly, a lot of those threads have scared me. I already made a couple of posts awhile back, about how I would be okay with sleeping in one bed with another guy, as there was nothing sexual to that. Now, seeing a lot of posts about how excited some guys are to touch their friends in their sleep has frightened me a little. I'm certainly not as comfortable with the idea of sharing a bed as I used to be.

Then there are the NUMEROUS threads about cock spotting at the gym/locker room, and those have frightened me as well. When I go back to the States, I'm probably going to be extra nervous in any of those situations, and EXTREMELY uncomfortable.

I know these people don't represent all gay men, and I think that most gay men are just as reasonable as anyone else, but it doesn't make me any less frightened and uncomfortable. I don't want men, in real life, getting that kind of pleasure from me. I'm straight, and I want nothing to do with any of that.

As for the issue of "he's not a victim because he's a guy", well, I have to say that's true. If a guy does something to a straight guy, the straight guy might feel really violated and disgusted, and that'd probably be the end of it. If a straight guy were to do something to a girl, it would be considered sexual assault from the get-go.

well-said. i think that, being men, we're conditioned to be uber-macho, uber-masculine and the idea of identifying with female victims completely shatters that notion. the same way every woman doesn't want a guy staring at her boobs, every straight guy doesn't want somebody oogling over his package while he's working out. do i look sometimes?? hell yes, but i consciously try to keep my eyes above the neck because after reading threads like "i touched my best friend in his sleep" i've realized that men can be victimized too.