Marley, thank you so much for this post.
Honestly, a lot of those threads have scared me. I already made a couple of posts awhile back, about how I would be okay with sleeping in one bed with another guy, as there was nothing sexual to that. Now, seeing a lot of posts about how excited some guys are to touch their friends in their sleep has frightened me a little. I'm certainly not as comfortable with the idea of sharing a bed as I used to be.
Then there are the NUMEROUS threads about cock spotting at the gym/locker room, and those have frightened me as well. When I go back to the States, I'm probably going to be extra nervous in any of those situations, and EXTREMELY uncomfortable.
I know these people don't represent all gay men, and I think that most gay men are just as reasonable as anyone else, but it doesn't make me any less frightened and uncomfortable. I don't want men, in real life, getting that kind of pleasure from me. I'm straight, and I want nothing to do with any of that.
As for the issue of "he's not a victim because he's a guy", well, I have to say that's true. If a guy does something to a straight guy, the straight guy might feel really violated and disgusted, and that'd probably be the end of it. If a straight guy were to do something to a girl, it would be considered sexual assault from the get-go. |