Originally Posted by invisibleman

This is truly my honest take on this subject.

I don't bother with telling straight guys that I am interested in them. Why? They like women. Why am I wanting to make them feel uncomfortable revealing..."I am smitten with you?" I think that straight men deserve to be with the women they like.

I think that straight men shouldn't be put on a pedestal like that. Yeah, I am not saying that gay men shouldn't like who they like. After all, it is sexual desire. Because you like someone doesn't mean that they like you back. And gay men shouldn't get upset when those feelings aren't reciprocal.

Originally Posted by Northland

They also deserve the honesty of knowing why a person is constantly around them, acting odd or even in a jealous fashion when others come along and consume their time. Through the years I have had on two occasions fallen madly and foolishly in what resembles love with a married man. In both cases I let them know. They made clear that this was not the way they were and that was that. In the weeks which followed things were admittedly uncomfortable; but, in both cases, things eventually evolved into strong solid friendships. Had I not indicated my desires to them, there would have been no possibility of continuing a genuine friendship since an element of truth would always have been kept hidden away-which is fair to nobody.