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Originally Posted by ManlyBanisters  I would hope you are right - I know some couples who have an education disparity but it does seem to be an issue, more so if it is the man who is less educated*. On the other hand I know a fair few couples of different races and that seems to be much less of a point of contention.
*Edit: I have noticed that different levels of education seem to be slightly less important / likely to cause problems in gay couples. That's just my experience of friends and friends of friends. |
Interesting point. I know quite a few couples where the wife is better educated than husband and it doesn't seem to make much of a difference but then I'm not privy to what happens when they're alone. I think, in these instances, what matters more is income disparity that favors the wife. Men still like to be the primary breadwinners because it's how we measure ourselves as providing for our family, which is our primary consideration in family making. When that disparity grows to the point that there's loss of financial control, then men tend to feel like hired bodyguards, handymen, and sperm depositors. It's important for women to make a man feel needed.
Gay couples are very different, I admit this 100% and I think it's because men tend to be less class-conscious in purely social situations. Men either bond or compete. If they bond then it means there's a common ground that transcends money, which is how American men interpret class. Then there's the great sex. If a couple has amazing sex, that counts for a lot. Alas, we're simple creatures.