Tardis, I think you did the right thing by telling your friend how you felt, and it took a lot of courage. Both of you understood that good relationships are built on trust. I hope things are still going well for both of you.

Although my situation was different from yours, I can understand how hard it was for both of you. I had known this bi guy (incredibly intelligent, charismatic and broad-minded) for a few years, and even though we lived oceans apart, we still managed to write and talk a lot and see each other whenever possible; we became very close. A few years ago, I realised that I truly loved him and that I had never been so happy. I let him know how I felt, which made him feel a little uncomfortable, and he responded by saying that he truly cared for me and would always be there for me. I tried never to bring the subject up again for fear of losing him (from then on whenever I wrote him I would use the euphemisms ''care for'' and ''missing'' instead of ''to love'' and ''needs to be close to...''). One evening last year, when we were together (I was in his home country), we had the opportunity to talk. Instead of telling him directly, I chose to tell him in a clumbsilly written letter. Unfortunately, nothing good came of it--it destroyed our relationship. In spite of this, I still love him (would accept him with open arms), but I know he feels pressured not to respond because of social mores.