I would think that these guys are secure with the way they look naked, that they are secure with their own sexuality and are not insecure with the size of their package (as some of them may be growers and not showers) and hard is where they will really be judged. They may or may not notice what you are packing. And if they do notice, for some of them it will not matter if you are 3 inches long soft or 9 inches long soft. 99% if those guys are there to shower after a workout. Not worry about if a guy is longer soft then they are. So just be as comfortable as they are.