Marley does make a good point. It is important to allow the space. We have all had times when we need friends to allow us to experience our own feelings and when we want to get them out, we know that our friends will be there to listen.
galaxus - my sister ten years later is still not able to deal with what happened to her.
It is odd to me that someone who is in such need of counseling refuses it so absolutely. I don't know what to say.