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Originally Posted by The Greek Dude  As a bisexual man, it's your duty to explain this to him. . .tell him that he's a close friend, and that you have absolutely no sexual desire for him. Explain to him that you've struggled with this ever since puberty, and that if you haven't wanted to be intimate with him in the past five years, you aren't going to start now just because you told him that you were bi. Calmly explain that it's impossible to change a gay man straight, or a straight man gay.
Finally, talk about women around him, too; mention famous women, or local girls you see out walking and find out if there's any you're both attracted to. . .tell him what you find atttractive about women, what your type is etc. Keep in mind that many people are not going to feel comfortable being around someone with a different sexuality than themselves so if none of this works? At least you tried and made yourself the better person. |
Agree with you 100% Greek Dude. Have you sat down and told him that you aren't interested in anything more than a close friendship with him? Right now he's probably going thru hell trying to figure out what he's done to upset you and is probably raking himself over the coals. Talk to him man. Sounds like you all have been friends for a long time, and just b/c he didn't sit next to you in the movies doesn't mean anything. You need to understand where he's coming from as well. You've just told him something that has probably made his head spin (not saying being bi is anything bad or anything like that....but he is/was probably in a state of shock), and he needs to adjust and get used to it. If he means that much to you (and it sounds like he does) go and talk to him and explain to him how you feel about him, and how you have been feeling since you came out to him. Great friends don't come around every day, and loosing one as special as this guy is to you....well it isn't worth it. Good luck