This is very good way of putting it, I feel the same way. It's not hard to understand why 'allowing everyone else to continue drinking' is not the easiest thing to do in accepting that some people do not need to drink to excess. There are differences, of course, among individual AA'ers on this matter: One I know always offered me wine of the most atrocious rotgut quality available, and another wanted me to have a good bottle of wine to celebrate something as part of a gift he was making me. If we don't drink much--I don't care to drink alone ever, and even with my bf I have 2-3 glasses of wine per week, so only one day a week do I have alcohol--we don't experience the memory of craving the way an AA'er may or may not (I imagine this may vary too, with some getting totally off the booze and not really even missing it, but nobody has ever told me about this.)

The first of these, though, who served the undrinkable wine, seemed to think it was fine to smoke enormous amounts of pot and also do a fair amount of cocaine. So that one of the peculiar things I've seen among at least some AA'ers is that they will think it is ONLY about one specific addiction, not other habits. But then, conquering one is admirable enough when that happens. This same one is a next-door neighbour and a most disagreeable person in most ways--loud, selfish and obnoxious, and we don't even speak any more. He's also filthy in personal habits. The other one I mention is wealthy and heavily medicated in other ways, has HIV, and basically lives the life of an invalid. Other AA people I've known less well have not been obnoxious though. They just don't drink, and you don't know anything about it until a drink is offered perhaps a little too aggressively. I admit to preferring this type of person, maybe they were the shy type who drank to 'be more sociable'. But this loud one next to my apt. is much less pleasant than many people I know who drink maybe a little more than they should sometimes. I just had a roommate who would sometimes drink to excess every few weeks--to the point of getting sick--but she never was irresponsible about it, and I hope she doesn't have a serious drinking problem (don't think she does, but it's true that she was only really friendly and wanted to converse a lot with me after she'd been drinking too much, and then she'd even wake me up sometime wanting to talk about her bf, etc. She was here for 14 months, and was physically very strong, but whether she has a drinking problem I don't know, but I still mainly doubt it, because she's too involved with her work.)