I have a good friend from HS days, I bet he's been smoking pot for at least 15 years now. They say it's not addictive, but I've seen him go to the ends of the earth to get more, so who knows. As I'm sure you know, it's not a true narcotic, nor in that family.

I have been to AA, and I found that it was not the program but the people that made it good. I've been to both gay and straight meetings, and I have to say, the gay ones are better. So I would not worry too much about the 12 steps exactly, because you will have benefits from just hearing and participating in the discussions. The key here is to "be real", and "get real" with people and life, and gift yourself some time to let some of the fog clear.