Why does not someone answer the man's question?????
Allow me to make some suggestions (to the point):
1. Good sex comes after good wooing --- take her out to a nice dinner and the theatre or a show.... something you both enjoy.
2. When you think it's time -- just ask her if this is all right --- communicate. If she wants this then go ahead.
3. Provide a secure place,,, a motel room... or a space at home... where you know there will be no interferences or intruders. (turn off the cell phone) Have her help you decide.
4. When you are ready plan lots of foreplay. When she is aroused she will be excited and wet and her breasts will swell. She may even invited you to "put it in."
5. Yes, use a condom. Also use some KY jelly. First time needs lots of lubrication.
6. If I were doing a first time again, I would invited the lady to get on top and guide the penetration --- when in then you may assume whatever position you both want.
7. With me my woman always comes first in my life. Another way of saying that is "my lady always cumms first." Get it! Make sure she has the joy of orgasm!!!
8. Oh yes, remember that the clit is the trigger to a woman's orgasm.
9. Take you time and have fun...... good luck.
And remember God is the on who thought of sex and gave it to us.