Not that I am having your experience at all, but I feel for you, bro, and I want to help. I've realized in my life that when I try the least hard I do the best sexually. When I try too hard, I act all strange. When I don't give a fuck, I get laid. The old quote that girls love jerks seems true sometimes, too.


I want to write like 20 paragraphs about this since I've had a few beers, and I tend to get loquacious, but I won't.

If I was 31 and hadn't gotten laid, I might think about just going to Amsterdam and looking for the top-notch hookers and just have enough money on hand to get a girl for a weekend. Tell them to be honest with you (while still having sex) and just hang out with a beautiful woman for a weekend, having as much sex as possible, going to dinner, etc., all the things you would do in a functional relationship with a crazy-hot girl.

Some people might think that this is fucked up, but I believe that once you get a taste for this sort of thing, an intelligent, heterosexual male will be able to learn and grow from this experience. It can't hurt you (as long as you wear a condom). Get over the hump, bro. Move on. Sex is great, but it shouldn't define your life. Get some and reclaim yourself.

You don't have to anything this intense, but I bet it would work.