I was really impressed with the posts of some of the men and women who responded to your situation. I just want to affirm that it is not the idea of being a virgin but the idea of being a confident, adult man. Women who are confident in themselves would NOT be turned off by the fact that you are a virgin once they knew the situation that you had with your exwife. They would want to be reassured that you do not bring a lot of sexual baggage and insecurity. I don't think it necessary for you to share this whole thing with them on the first date but as you progress they have the right and you have the responsibility to let them know enough of your past. Good luck to you. I expect that you will make a woman a very good boyfriend, lover and husband. Now go out and get her. She is out there!