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Originally Posted by Dregun  I don't want to say you are doing anything wrong, in fact from what I have read you are putting in a very honest effort to make sure your girlfriend is satisfied. However with that said experimentation and verbal communication can go a long way to solve this issue.
I have never met a girl that I wasn't able to get to orgasm through intercourse even when they said previously that they never have and "couldn't" orgasm during sex. I think the majority of the "only 30% of women can orgasm vaginaly" is contrived to help male self esteem. Just like saying a guy with a small dick can satisfy a woman just as good as a guy with a big fat cock because only 3 inches is needed.
With so many techniques you can try its hard to suggest just one; however the best technique is VERBAL! Change up angles and ask her how it feels, try to keep a constant rhythm (very important) when you hear her starting to get more vocal don’t slow down! Women function different then men do; I have often found that women are very conscious about the changes in rhythm and at times self control is what can bring them over the edge if you can keep a constant pace.
A few women respond to putting pressure on their pubic area, try to time it with your strokes when she’s on her back and ask if she likes it. I find it best to lean myself back to increase the friction while doing more of an upward thrust. I could list 100 different things to try but as I have stated, verbal is the best technique in your arsenal. If you can get your girlfriend to achieve an orgasm through oral clitoral stimulation then honestly NOTHING is stopping you from getting her to orgasm clitoraly during penetration. You already know she can orgasm through clitoral stimulation; now you just have to find a technique that stimulates it during sex as much as through oral.
Also your girlfriend might have some psychological issues as well, not saying she does but maybe shes more self consious during sex then when shes laying on her back just recieving. Your problem isn't as strange as others I have heard about, some women can orgasm clitoraly through intercourse but not through oral.
Good Luck,
Dregun |
My husband couldnt possibly be a better lover and in 10 years it hasnt happened. No psychological hang ups. It's about where the nerves are located and how sensitive they are. Everyone is different. All the techniques described in this thread have been tried many times in our bedroom. No orgasm. I'm not alone in this.
And whats wrong with a little stimulation on an area that is made on the outside of our genitals to reach orgasm? Why do we place such an emphasis on getting it to respond by indirect stimulation? Makes no sense to me. I think if we were meant to orgasm that way the clitoris would be inside of our vagina getting direct stimulation from thrusting alone.
Not all women can or will do it. I'm ok with that. Some guys wack off by rubbing down low on their shaft and are able to orgasm without stimulating their head, most don't do that because its frustrating or doesnt work. Same concept for us women.