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Originally Posted by Rugbypup  I find it a bit hard to understand that if you were married for so long, why you never said to her not ever having sex with you was wrong? |
I wanted to make my wife happy. I also believed that she would be more likely to want to make me happy in return. I gave her oral (and enjoyed it!) as often as she would allow. After she came, she would say thanks, then roll over and go to sleep.
Being critical and telling her she was 'wrong' was not something I could do. Nor did I think it would help the situation. I didn't want her to have sex with me out of guilt or duty, or to pressure or force her to do it. I wanted her to desire it; to desire me. I recognize now that I did avoid conflict when I should have communicated to her how it made me feel.
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Originally Posted by Rugbypup She was your wife right? She must have had a seriously strange notion of what married live involves? |
Yes, I think so. She didn't take my last name, she didn't ever want to have kids and she didn't want to co-mingle our funds. Looking back, I don't think she truly wanted to be married, she just wanted to keep me in her life and marrying me was the only way she could do that.