edman I was in a three year relationship with a girl who is not unlike your wife. In the end the relationship died for obvious reasons. My girl had some very deep issues. Not only self image issues but intimacy issues and I think that she may have possibly been forced sexually in the past. It got to the point where she was messing me up psychologically because I thought something was wrong with me and that it wasn't normal to want sex. After leaving that relationship it took a while to get back to normal and now I am with a very sweet and loving girl. There is nothing wrong with me and my sex drive, the problem was with my X.

Sex is usually an indicator for the relationship. Though relationships have up and downs with sex if there is a real problem in bed then there is most likely a real problem with the relationship. Being as your married and I am assuming you wish to stay that way I think that she may need some councling. It is very possible that something tramatic happened to her in the past, she may have even repressed it to the point where she does not remember. If she is the kind of person that denys a problem till it "dissapears" then this is a serious issue. I hope you find some resolution but it may require some consoling and dealing with some of her baggage that may have nothing to do with you, your marrage or even sex per se.