Hi Amy, and welcome. I've been told to "take it easy there hoss," but I wouldn't say it is a real downside, and I certainly don't get annoyed or impatient with a woman who has doubts about taking my cock (it's usually about girth, not length). It is just one of those things that seems to be part of life, like having to buy big shoes if you have large feet. I think there's a definite positive side to it: I had to learn to be gentle and that has made me a better lover.