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Originally Posted by alex8.5  I think geography may play a part in this. In some places man on man (hetero / gay) is just not welcomed. I live in California, my B/F and I hug and touch each other in public. I have also hugged and kissed male friends goodby after lunch in public. Maybe it's because I don't care what others think. WOuld I do this if I was visiting Saudi Arabia? I don't know. We have a house in the thousand Islands in Ontario Canada, and at times we get THE LOOK from people who see us and know were a gay couple. I think it's based on geography. |
I've noticed this type of affection is less common here on the east coast than the west coast, NYC being the exception. My parents live in the midwest and you just don't see men there touching each other. At all.
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Originally Posted by horneyoldguy
I know this happened in my family when my father told my sons (his grandsons) that boys don't hug. Well, my wife and I didn't agree with that philosophy and instructed the boys to always hug grandpa and I too began to hug my father more. He eventually got used to this and I think looked forward to our hugs. Now I watch my grandsons and am waiting to see if this philosopy has carried over to another generation. Only time will tell. |
Good on you for taking steps to buck old traditions and create new ones. This is the kind of behaviour that sustains my faith in the human race.
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Originally Posted by Northland Society still frowns and/or snickers at men hugging men (especially outside of family); but, that's their problem. If that same society finds woman on woman to be hot, then they can damned well learn to deal with two men hugging-or even giving an affectionate kiss. |
Good point but that begs the question of whether or not it's still a hetero man's world. Women aren't encouraged to be intimate with each other so much as sexual and you've spelled out why. Odd thing is that women are generally more comfortable with non-sexual physical contact within their gender. I don't know if it's programming or merely cultural.