You strike me as a well-spoken, sensitive guy, and I think that's a big part of your problem, sadly. You're obviously a really pleasant dude and I do empathize with you, but I think you'd gain a lot from the ''oh well, her loss" attitude to some degree. Start thinking of your own needs and wants and pursue them. Consider what you really need in life right now and up your standards to match it. I'm not just talking about finding someone who'll have sex with you, but someone who scratches your itch in precisely the ways you like. But above all, get out there and have some fun. There will be people who appreciate you in many different ways, but keep things understated until you know them a little better. Act like what you've got between your legs is a blessing, not a curse, and develop an overall attitude to go with it. Best of luck to you.