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Originally Posted by ChockoKittie  Ha! This is often very true! 
I was in the same situation, loved my ex but his sex drive was very low, or rather, low in comparison to mine. So, I had to recognize his peaks and then coax him at other times. Example, he was hard every morning and that was his sexual peak of the day, so we usually had sex then.
Other times, I would call him at work and get him hard or at least thinking about sex. When we would see each other later, he was ready to act on whatever fantasy we discussed earlier. It can be done, if the partner has a low sex drive, but is still interested in sex.
If he isn't? I do not know what to tell you. Maybe some testosterone gel to get the hormones back on track?
I'll admit that I tired of trying so hard. Even though I loved him, in the end it wasn't enough to overcome the sexual differences.  We even discussed getting married and allowing me to "do my thing" on the side, but, like you, I wanted the one relationship to fulfill everything. And I agree, masturbation does not cut it - why people suggest that is beyond me.  |
Thanks, ChockoKittie, for that very honest and personal reply. And thank you also to Eds69_girl for your comments.
I don't think there IS any one answer to my dilemma or to Edman's. I'd love to be one of those take-charge guys that seems to know what to do and then just do it. I can be that way and have done so in a previous relationship. But I ended up throwing the baby out with the bathwater. I'll try your suggestions, though, Chocko. The morning sex sounds like a good one, as my partner usually complains that one of the reasons he's so low-interest is that by the time I get to him, he's already wanked so he's got nothing left...<cough...BULLshit...). Don't really get that excuse cuz after a very brief cool down, I'm always ready to go again. And I'm certainly not gonna change my sex drive to meet his. Tried that one for awhile and nearly killed me...and I nearly killed everyone else too when I turned into a raving grumpy bitch! LOL The DSB's do not make me a pleasant guy to be around. The only problem with the morning sex is that his excuse in the past has been "I'm trying to sleep here". But I'll persist!