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Originally Posted by Jovial  What is she mad at you about? |
Ha! This is often very true!
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Originally Posted by Hellboy0 Folk, I got ya'll beat. My partner and I have been together for over 14 years. Everything about our life together is fucking awesome...except the fucking which ain't. I mean, it ain't happening, or at least hasn't in the past 7 years.
I know folks change and relationships shift but come on. What the hell is this about? Have tried to talk about it and the best response I get is "I don't know". I want him to seek some help to find out why this is going on but he says "I don't need to see a psych", which really just means he's happy to keep his head in the sand.
Don't even suggest I leave him. It's not going to happen...this is a fixable sitch. However the biggest problem is my massive sex drive...there is only so much wanking one guy can do. And trust me, I've done a lot of it in the past.
Now I take care of my "business" as I need to, in a discreet, safe fashion (we got this don't ask-don't tell protocol similar to the US military). But it's not the option I'm keen to continue until I move off this mortal plane. I certainly don't want to put my very hot bod and fat cock on ice just when I got my groove back. So a couple suggestions to the poster of this thread would probably help me too.
BTW, this is a pretty sensitive subject that I've opened myself up for and I'd appreciate it if you either ignore me or be nice. But not mean, please. Those of us in this sitch know that life is just not as simple as you think, especially when we complicate it with loving someone else.
PS Sorry, Edman, for jumping in like this. It's your thread...but I feel like we're kinda in the same boat. |
I was in the same situation, loved my ex but his sex drive was very low, or rather, low in comparison to mine. So, I had to recognize his peaks and then coax him at other times. Example, he was hard every morning and that was his sexual peak of the day, so we usually had sex then.
Other times, I would call him at work and get him hard or at least thinking about sex. When we would see each other later, he was ready to act on whatever fantasy we discussed earlier. It can be done, if the partner has a low sex drive, but is still interested in sex.
If he isn't? I do not know what to tell you. Maybe some testosterone gel to get the hormones back on track?
I'll admit that I tired of trying so hard. Even though I loved him, in the end it wasn't enough to overcome the sexual differences.
We even discussed getting married and allowing me to "do my thing" on the side, but, like you, I wanted the one relationship to fulfill everything.
And I agree, masturbation does not cut it - why people suggest that is beyond me.
