Folk, I got ya'll beat. My partner and I have been together for over 14 years. Everything about our life together is fucking awesome...except the fucking which ain't. I mean, it ain't happening, or at least hasn't in the past 7 years.

I know folks change and relationships shift but come on. What the hell is this about? Have tried to talk about it and the best response I get is "I don't know". I want him to seek some help to find out why this is going on but he says "I don't need to see a psych", which really just means he's happy to keep his head in the sand.

Don't even suggest I leave him. It's not going to happen...this is a fixable sitch. However the biggest problem is my massive sex drive...there is only so much wanking one guy can do. And trust me, I've done a lot of it in the past.

Now I take care of my "business" as I need to, in a discreet, safe fashion (we got this don't ask-don't tell protocol similar to the US military). But it's not the option I'm keen to continue until I move off this mortal plane. I certainly don't want to put my very hot bod and fat cock on ice just when I got my groove back. So a couple suggestions to the poster of this thread would probably help me too.

BTW, this is a pretty sensitive subject that I've opened myself up for and I'd appreciate it if you either ignore me or be nice. But not mean, please. Those of us in this sitch know that life is just not as simple as you think, especially when we complicate it with loving someone else.

PS Sorry, Edman, for jumping in like this. It's your thread...but I feel like we're kinda in the same boat.