I will say that (I think) I have abandonment issues also...although it is slightly complex and I don't know if that's a correct 'diagnosis'.
I have a problem whereby I have sex with girls and I enjoy it but I don't have an emotional attachment. I actually said to my gf last night that 'it is basically just sex.' Which I think it is...I mean I don't talk to her - or anyone - and she doesn't know anything about me so what's there to get attached to besides the sex? Anyway, she "whooped" on me when I said that (lol).
I suppose related to that is my social ineptness; saying the wrong thing/not knowing what to say. I also realised that having not spoken (intimately) with anyone for a very long time, I struggle to find words when speaking. I really don't say much though.
I think really it all boils down to me not feeling...like I really exist. Which sounds strange but there are parts of my identity that are missing, or false and so I don't feel like a whole person. I feel like I'm only half a person and when I'm in a relationship, my partner is only getting 'half' a relationship: the physical side.
I don't have any problems with trust but then I think I avoid getting attached/to the stage of 'trusting/not trusting' for that reason...I think everyone will lie to me? Or I think they'll leave me? I don't know.
So I may be "hung" but its not all cakes and pies. |