I will be 44 this week, the youngest man I have been intimate with was nine or ten years younger than me and that was just about three years ago. He was the teacher in the relationship.

Since him, I have pondered entering into a relationship with a younger man and I have been approached by men as young as my son ... 24. Most being between 28 and early 30s. Sometimes I have a flippant attitude and will very seriously consider some proposals. But honestly, I fear getting hurt.

Something I have figured out about myself is that I associate sex with emotions. There have been a couple of half-hearted attempts to seize the milf identity and take some of the young men up but it just doesn't fit me. I, no matter hard I have tried, cannot be intimate with a person when I know going in that it is a temporary thing. I can't let 'go' of me, I can't become vulnerable and it is the vulnerability (in my mind) that lays the groundwork for incredibly mind blowing intimate times.