Tall, dark, and. . .

wvalady1968: [quote author=Javierdude23 link=board=women;num=1063423035;start=0#13 date=09/13/03 at 09:47:57]

I think it dóes work like this: We all have an ideal type of partner in mind. For girls that may be tall dark and handsome, for guys blond, nice butt, and a nice set of....(cough).....brains....But, fat chance you meet those people on a regular or even annual basis. So, you meet that blond big....brained girl with a nice butt, who happens to to be Girlzilla at the same time. First you think...nah...too tall....but, when you happen to talk to her, it turns out she and you have everything in common, and a *spark* to go with that. The height problem falls away...

My point with this is that I don't buy it that it is the height problem that is obstructing anyone from meeting someone. Sure, some people have it up in many physical departments and may meet people easier, but I don't think it inhíbits you from meeting anyone.

It has everything to do with the attitude, personality, common interests, humour, and other physical attributes aside from height, to make someone interested in you.

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Well done, Javier!! The physical doesn't last, anyway.

A thousand women have walked by my guy and seldom given him a second look. [Thank God] It wasn't until I really got to know him that I realized how special he is. And how perfect for me.

Yowsers: AnonyMs - If i was gay, sure, i would go out with Mike. Simply b/c he's a cool person, who i could trust and have fun with. Qualities that I'm lucky enough to have in Jackie, my girl friend.

It seems to me all it comes down to attraction. Dating sites may seem to be an act of desperation, but for Mike it's a perfectly reasonable route. He's tried meeting people at bars, book stores, the laundry mat, etc. museums. Over and over, he gets rejected. No one seems to find him attractive enough to bother to looking deeper into the great person he is. . .

The physisal doesn't last is true, but how many people have you broken up with b/c of something superficial. How many times have you seen a tall girl w/ a short guy? In sum, I'll never really know why Mike has been single all these years, as the old saying goes, until you walked in another person'shoes. . .

aj2181: [quote author=TragicWhiteKnight link=board=women;num=1063423035;start=0#6 date=09/13/03 at 02:26:42]What about guys who are considered too tall?

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I fall into the too tall catagory. I'm 6'11". There are those women who like it and those who say "hows the weather up there, your way too tall for me". I asume that about 6'6" is about the tallest women will go. Am I wrong about that?

Its like most things there is a range of perfection and anything outside the range is imperfect. I believe that there is someone for everyone. Wether your tall, short, skin and bones, or a little on the heavy side. Some people are lucky enough to find their match and some don't.

sudas: You know what the tall women say: "It's not fair when taller men date short women- who's left for us?" Black women say the same thing about Black men who date outside their race. I guess they're not interested in dating White men; same thing with tall women and short men.

It is possible for some people to look past the physical. But a woman has to face her peers. Who wants to be mocked? On the other hand, women may be more likely to look beyond the physical: balding, ugly, etc. Guys may ask a good-looking woman "why are you with that guy?"

All I can say is don't fall into angry-short-guy-with-attitude. The same applies for angry-Black-woman-with-attitude. Confidence, smiling and a friendly disposition should open doors.

inquiringmind: Amen Sudas,

Preach it, brother! Preach it! I think many times it is easier to lump everyone into groups, and if we have had more than one negative experience with a person of a certain type, it is easy to go there. I guess I did that with the short guy rant I had earlier. I do have to say that I also have some very wonderful, funny ,short male friends who have beaucoups women. I think it is your attitude also. *I was speaking from a particular situation I am experiencing right now. There is a guy who I think is great but I am not trying to be in a relationship with him. He is pushing frantically and I know he will blow up when I tell him I am not feelin' it. *
I love having male friends who I can bounce *ideas and info back and forth with .I get many of my insights from *guys about the behavior of other guys. I am not discounting anyones's real pain .I feel for them. I also know that for some individuals it is easier to find some one that it is for others. But it gets really old walking on egg shells with someone no matter what the reason.

Inquiring mind


P.S. On the Black man/Black woman thing I can see with the shortage of eligible black men the sensitivity but there are many reasons for people falling for one another , So one must keep the faith ( I am not going to dare say,"Keep hope alive! ")
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[quote author=sammygirly link=board=women;num=1063423035;start=0#2 date=09/12/03 at 21:56:24]I tend to go for taller men because I'm quite tall myself and I just prefer it. Â*I'm 5'11.

But, when I put some thought into it, I guess it has something to do with the whole thing that men are supposed to be stronger, taller...the protectors so to speak. Â*Maybe it's inbred through evolution...?[/quote]
I dunno; most societies have some form of women warriors, and musculature isn't a correlation to height. (In fact, one genetic disease, Marfan syndrome, causes greater height and less musculature.)

I was thinking of another evolutionary reason; females have to be picky with their mates because they can only get pregnant so many times, once for each cycle before menopause. Male gametes, OTOH, are disposable. Females choose the healthiest-looking male. Height correlates with diet; it correlates negatively with persistance of childhood diseases. A similar rule can be made about "handsome"; it's either markers of the upper class (i.e., bulk among Polynesians) or simply markers of versatility (i.e., symmetry).

"Dark" is probably just exoticism.