Horny......

Tender: john,
i think you just worded some things differntly,
and thats OK ...

maybe just mistook the emotional depth or tone of 'voice'
its just black and white ya know....

:)
Tender

oh, (hugs) too, you look like you need one....
;)

inquiringmind: Hi,
This is a very refreshing discussion to me. I also am a virgin. I grew up in a Christian family and made a decision myself that I would not have sexual intercourse until marriage. I have stuck to that decision.It has not been an easy one but one I do not regret. I have over the years watched and listened to my friends as they had horror stories about their relationships. I can not say that I have not engaged in kissing or petting but that came to be well after I was seriously over 21. I am by nature an affectionate person and much of what I write in my stories come from the experiences of some of my male friends. I think that the fact all of us that do abstain are here shows that we have normal sexual curiosity and are sensual individuals whether we are sexually active or not.

Inquiring mind

Valkyrie: All - I find this an extremely interesting discussion - I like seeing the different viewpoints. It helps me to better understand where people are coming from. Thanks for everyone's input.

- wvvalady -
you got my intention entirely right. Either choose to wait with sex because it's in your personal beliefs (and then I would assume it goes for all types of sexual activity, not just the penentrating variety) until you are married to that special someone, or have an honest, sexual relationship with the person you love - regardless of marital status. It's the inbetweens that I have a hard time with (and find a bit hypocritical) - "I'm not having sex until we're married, but we're doing oral sex, we're getting undressed and we're masturbating one another until orgasm. I'm really dying to try penetrating sex, it's so hard to wait, I would like to but I can't - I have to save myself for marriage.".

- John -
As already pointed out - the comments are most certainly not aimed at you personally. Yes, you made a comment about "too intimate" - but I've heard that comment from countless other people as well, not only on this board. And it was never implied that you spoke about exploring other avenues of sexuality - to my knowledge I've never seen any of that in your posts, also confirmed by what you yourself is saying about your relationship.

I have absolutely no problem with people choosing to do something because it's in their religious belief (abstaining from sex, observing a sabbath, praying, abstaining from certain kinds of food etc.). As long as you are true to your beliefs, as long as those beliefs are in line with what _you_ personally find OK and as long as you don't force your beliefs upon other people it's perfectly alright. Live and let live.

Your religion seems to be very important to you and you try to follow what is laid out as OK and not OK to the best of your ability - kudos to you for that. As said above, it's the inbetweens that I have problem understanding. And in retrospect I agree with you - kissing is also a sign of affection, not necessarily a sexual act in itself.

/Val

ORCABOMBER: Damn, this topic isn't half bad.. shame I had to arrive near the end. :-/

Okay, well, my personal opinion is that, well as a virgin of 21 I don't really believe in "saving myself", mainly because I don't really 'feel' like I want to be married. Not to say that I have no faith, but I associate the words "God" and "bastard" pretty often. No offence to people with stronger faith.

Would that mean I'd never abstain? Well, I'm a very sensible person. I mean, if you can sleep over at a woman's house and both be as horny as fung for different reasons and NOT get up to something because she's with someone else, THAT is a good amount of self control, if at least for moral reasons. If I was with someone I loved, well, it's down to her really. I have no confidence on such issues. :-[

Mind you, saying that, one thing I don't like, is that for a guy, well, it's pretty easy to get horny. I sometimes wish, I didn't have those feelings, because I hate lusting for the unobtainable, it makes me feel stupid and generally reduces my self-persona to "go back under that rock" status.

I mean, do you ever get a glow down your arms and your legs and over your stomach and your palms just sweated up and your glowing with sexual energy? That's my horny and I'm slowly beginning to hate it!

I have a hunch it's just hormonal but I feel it getting stronger but it's annoying to me and makes me feel like I'm splitting from what I "am". Okay, okay, hard to explain and I'm starting to rant, so I'll stop. But hey, I know the "S" in LPSG is there for a reason,. :D

rainfletcher: Val,

I agree with you completely. When I was growing up in those youth groups (only went for the girls, was never interested in the religion ;D), they talked about this alot. The rule of thumb was - only do stuff you'd be comfortable doing if your parents were in the room! If you'd feel uncomfortable with your parents in the room, then it's wrong. I didn't agree (and still don't), but at least it's consistent, right?

Yowsers: From being Horny to Abstaining until marriage or at least that special someone.

I applaude you all for your integrity of your convections and willingness to share. Often times, I read this site and am just shocked by the depth many of you have towards sex and life.

Of course, other times, I'm just amused by the shallowness and just laugh.

So nice to get both at good ole LPSG.

GreenEyes: Glad you enjoy my shallowness.... ;D

It still doesn't change the fact that I am a horney woman! ;)

Some threads just take so many twists and turns and it is such a good thing.

Again you make your own choices and you have to live with them. Nobody can tell you what is right or wrong for yourself and there has been a lot of good input.

bigcock: Green Eyes, if you ever need relief, T-Wolfe is always in the woods :D

ORCABOMBER: [quote author=Yowsers link=board=women;num=1064768529;start=40#50 date=10/10/03 at 14:30:02]From being Horny to Abstaining until marriage or at least that special someone.
I applaude you all for your integrity of your convections and willingness to share. Often times, I read this site and am just shocked by the depth many of you have towards sex and life.

Of course, other times, I'm just amused by the shallowness and just laugh.

So nice to get both at good ole LPSG. [/quote]
We're an amusing bunch, aren't we Yowzer?