Well, if I must confess, I have done both... errr.. that is, I've been major hard during oral and not so much for sex... and vice versa! It's a mental thing and depends upon partner. I guess I really get turned on by doing what really turns on the other person... so if I believe they really want intercourse, then I am super hard for that. If I believe they do not, but just want to stroke or suck me, then I am super hard for that. So, Kittie, I guess your desire would be mine, so to speak.