Approached by older woman

powerss: Hello, I'm a registered lurker but I don't post a lot. I decided I needed some opinions on what just happened to me a few days ago.

So our family (I'm an only child) gets invited to the home of my Mother's boss. She does Artwork for print and media, including illustrations. Anyway, we arrive, everythings cool - some very rich snooty people are there, but otherwise it was enjoyable.

We eat some barbeque (they had a caterer and everything, it was crazy!) and then the bathroom trips start. My mother is close with the family so when I asked where the restroom is, she directed me upstairs (where no one was) and into one of her kids restrooms.

So I get upstairs and I go into the bathroom. It's very nice, marble and silver fixtures (so much goddamn money) and I try to lock the door. The doorhandle is so freakin weird I can't figure out how to lock it, and it keeps sliding open. I basically just closed it best I could and started to do my business.

I only needed to take a piss, so I'm standing there doing my business. I finish up when the door swings open, and a woman walks in and closes the door behind her, and oblivious to me standing there with my pants around my ankles, starts fixing herself up in the mirror.

I jerk up my pants, but I'm not quick enough. She got a look, and a good look. She gets flustered and runs out, and I think it's all over. Too my surprise, she comes back in, looking at me, then down at my pants (which are up, but arent buckled, buttoned, or zipped.)

She closed the door behind her. I'm tired of typing, so I'll cut to the chase - I got excited, she touched me sexually.

Now, was I just abused, or was it simply nothing because I'm over 18 and it was somewhat mutual? I feel very strange, both at myself because I somewhat enjoyed the experience but wish it hadn't happened.

And screw you if you think this is some story. It isn't - any replies are welcome if they're relevent.

DirkDiggler: I dont know if what you say is true or not,but if you are over 18 then you should be able to handle that kind of situation without having to ask anyone else what they think.Most people in that kind of situation wouldnt whine about being sexually abused in my opinion.Why do you wish it hadnt happend??

DirkDiggler: Any older women want to approch me...I'll try not to scream too much.

Over 18 and directed to use the kiddies' bathroom? Either you look younger than your age or you were being set up. I'd opt for the latter.

Nevertheless, I'd recommend that next time you find yourself in a similar situation that you take matters firmly in hand:

"If you're still fooling around with me in 30 minutes I'm gonna have to yell and scream!"

:P

Pecker

H8Monga: She knew about the door's lock I'm suspecting.

[quote author=powerss link=board=youth;num=1054971896;start=0#0 date=06/07/03 at 00:40:08]

"... she touched me sexually.

Now, was I just abused, or was it simply nothing because I'm over 18 and it was somewhat mutual? I feel very strange, both at myself because I somewhat enjoyed the experience but wish it hadn't happened..."

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Enough said for me to determine that while it was not "abuse" in and of itself, it was indeed "inappropriate behavior" on her part for having returned a second time (within mere moments obvioiusly) and then do what she did..whether you were by that time aroused or not...(and what man wouldn't have been?)

The fact you felt "uncomfortable" from this experience is a signal though to you that something wasn't right about this and I would only suggest you take this as a lesson for the future...Stand your ground and if you don't like ANY unwelcomed "advance" ...then say so!

While flattering to be sure, a woman's attention should be welcomed by the man, not just tolerated out of some social politeness. The posh environment you were in as well also (perhaps) complicated your ability to think fast and react as you would have otherwise-- (being shocked and taken by surprise).

Don't let this experience "rattle you" as much as alert you that experiences like this happen in life. You need to be in touch with your inner self to make the judgment call that represents how YOU feel during these times.

Again, if this woman's advances (under those circumstances) weren't welcomed, you should have told her so! --then and there.

Fancy house or not---I personally wouldn't have been too overly impressed! And, I KNOW I wouldn't go back.

At my age, if an older woman approached me sexually, I could probably outrun her wheelchair.

Pecker

[quote author=benderten2001 link=board=youth;num=1054971896;start=0#5 date=06/07/03 at 10:30:22]


Enough said for me to determine that while it was not "abuse" in and of itself, it was indeed "inappropriate behavior" on her part for having returned a second time (within mere moments obvioiusly) and then do what she did[/quote]

Not to mention, adultery is objectionable on both moral and legal grounds ... and can lead to a guest spot on The Jerry Springer Show!

I wouldn't have been.

awellhungboi: If you feel abused, it's abuse.

It's natural that you would be aroused in that situation, though, and also natural that you would be confused afterward.

I've been in similar situations and, for me, it was all about a sense of powerlessness. *And people telling me what I should have done, or what they would have done, only made me feel worse. *"Man, you should have fucked her good." *"Man, I would have told her to fuck off." *But there's a big difference about a sexual experience--even a spontaneous, unsought one--with someone you want to have sex with and a sexual experience--even with someone you may be attracted to--that is exploitative and makes you feel, as you put it, strange.

Life, unfortunately, isn't like porn. *Most people don't whip off their clothes at the slightest provocation, fuck with wild abandon, move on. *We are a precarious balance of wants, needs, hungers, fears, dreams, ambitions, and sex will really stir those things up. * As for me, I've chalked up such things as learning experiences and tried to get on with my life.

Powerss I dont think she wanted a long term relationship. She simply found you attractive and wanted to get laid.
You sound rather young for over 18 so maybe this is the problem. Most guys I know fantasize about just such scenarios and would have bagged her on the spot and thought they had died and gone to heaven. It is called casual sex. Cover up, loosen up and enjoy while you can.