Originally Posted by Phil Ayesho

Too bad you didn't give the guy a chance to find out if he liked you that much...

I don't care what you claim to be like in terms of generosity and willingness to help....

if you were really honest with yourself, and with me, you would acknowledge that there are a hundred ways a guy could ruin his chances with you on a first or second date. Little things and big.

And you expect a guy to KNOW what not to do....without being told.
Its a TEST... whether you admit to it or not.

He might be the very best guy in the world... had you gotten to know him and respected that HE also has a hundred ways a girl can ruin her chances with him on the first few dates...

Looks like you failed his test and he failed yours.
that's fine... just don't cop the attitude that what you did wasn't a breach of pretty well established date etiquette.

Maybe you know a lot of other guys that have passed that test with flying colors.... but, clearly, you're still looking... you haven't settled down with any of those sterling characters you claim to have met in the past....
A wonderful point was made here. Clearly those same individuals that did all those things were possibly doormats.

Why is that?
Perhaps the kind of guy who would put up with that is a doormat that you don't find attractive long term?

maybe you ought to give a man with a spine and some expectations of his own a try.