Having kids changes everything. Suddenly all the family who you've ignored for years become a priority over the friends you've ignored the family for. Wives and kids all have their own things they need and agendas. You're lucky he's even trying to get together with you-- there are only 24 hours in the day and families take up most of that.

I have a friend who is a 2nd year resident and when he comes home getting our schedules to mesh is impossible. One of us is always falling off the calling wagon because we're busy, tired, antisocial, or all three. We don't take it personally and enjoy the time we have together, even if it's only three times a year or so.

Just be glad you're still in touch. It's hard to do once life takes over. Keeping friendships is something that gets harder and harder as you get older and have more responsibilities.