Originally Posted by sugarandspice

1. Yes, he did claim phobia about hospitals but it was more that he felt I should go take care of it myself. Keep in mind he might have been downplaying the degree of his phobia. Most people don't enjoy displaying their weaknesses, particularly that early in a potential relationship. Besides, on a second date? Yes, you should take care of it yourself.
2. I needed a driver to take me home.
A) Taxi
B) You could have asked him to pick you up from the hospital AFTER your shot.
3. Other men have been more than willing so maybe I'm a little spoiled. Quite possibly. Change is good.
4. I also hate to be by myself in the hospital. I really wanted him to keep me company and he refused. I think maybe he is not like my other friends and dates. He didn't care that I would be alone in the hospital-again. Not his problem that you don't like to be alone. This wasn't an emergency, nor a case where you'd need emotional support, it's just waiting. Book, iPod, Gameboy, knitting, etc.
5. I don't want to be a person with unreasonable expectations and I don't want fair weather friends either. A second date is far too soon to expect this kind of favor in my opinion, also far too early to judge if he's only a fairweather friend.
6. I am more suspect of him because he smokes pot. I read the effects of Toradol, that's a very potent drug. If he's at all familiar with it he might have concerns about your use of it the same way you're concerned with his pot usage.
7. HE was the one I had plans with so I felt like we could have just incorporated it into our plans. I thought if he really wanted to see me he shouldn't mind and I thought it was crappy that a man interested in me wouldn't take me to the hospital when I had already tried all my friends . The both of you made plans. You changed them. He opted not to agree to the new plan. He's allowed to do that. And given his phobia nothing short of a severed limb (preferably his own) will get him to go to the H with you or anyone else.

8. oh crap. I think I am rambling again.(or did I catch myself in time?)Yes, a little, but you're improving.

9. I have just been very fortunate that so many others have been willing to hang out with me wherever and however I am.