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I met a guy on the net and we went to movie. We had a few things in common and we were supposed to get together last Friday night and work on one of my businesses and have dinner.

Am I correct in thinking that Friday night was to be a combination 2nd date and business meeting?

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Friday came and I was having a lot of inflammation in my neck from therapy and had to keep it iced and thought I needed to go to the hospital and get a Toradol injection.

You couldn't do that during the day before the date? Or did it not start to bother you until it was time to go out.

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The ER visit wouldn't really take that long since they know me. I needed a driver and it should have only taken 45 to 90 minutes.

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So I asked the guy to take me to the ER and hang with me. He didn't want to.

I don't blame him! I have rarely been to an ER where I was there under 3 hours sometimes as many as 10 hours. The man was there for a business dinner and maybe some romantic stuff, NOT to play Florence Nightingale/chauffer.

If a guy told me on the 2nd date I had to take him to the ER first, so that he could get an injection of a pain reliever; but not to worry it wouldn't take long because they know me there. All he would have seen was my dust backing out the driveway.

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In the past and present men treat me very well and would take me to the ER and hang with me.

Of course they did, they want to see you nekkid; and what better way to do that than to get you loopy first on pain killers.

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I guess I didn't realize what a hassle it would seem like to him but we could still see each other and talk while I was waiting and what not. I thought it was reasonable.

No, it was not reasonable, it sounds like you were testing him.

I used to get bronchitis 6 times a year. I have been in ER's all over the country most are dirty, full of people I would never associate with on a bet, and they are always understaffed. That said the quickest, best care; and cleanest ER I have been to was in Palm Springs, CA.

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I am trying to see if I am a little spoiled by very kind friends who are not the norm or if this guy is a "fair weather" friend.

Yes, you are spoiled! He may have been giving you serious contemplation on a business level. But now he has to wonder if you are regularly too sick to do business with him.

If he was looking for sex then he doesn't want someone who might not be available for booty calls; because she doesn't feel well.

I don't think he's a fair weather friend. I think your expectations are way out of line for someone you just met.

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Almost everyone who knows me has been to the hospital with me. I am very blessed to have wonderful friends.

Yes, you are blessed. But there is a huge difference between a friend, a lover, and a business associate. Sheesh, if on the 2nd date he has to sit with you at the ER, what do you do for fun on the 3rd date ask him to help you move into a 3rd floor walk-up?

You need to get a grip on reality!

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I am trying to decide how I feel about the Fair Weather Guy. I thought maybe he considers me a potential convenient piece of ass since he acted like he really liked me but couldn't hang out with me in the ER.

Jesus Christmas! 1) NEVER mix business with pleasure. 2) Whether you realize it or not you use your injury/illness as a litmus test for who can be your friend. I wouldn't be so quick to tell a potential love interest about all your medical issues. It's not being dishonest, it's just that in your case there is a lot to deal with.

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I want feedback because I want to know if maybe my expectations are too high or if I am right and should not lower my standards. I set my standards by what I am used to.

Yes, your expectations are too high!

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My medical needs have intruded on my dating before but they always just went along with it. Am I a little spoiled or is this just how anyone treats someone they really want to build a friendship with?

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What do you think?

Men are like snowflakes everyone is different. Your mistake was in trying to combine too many needs into one man. You were looking for a nursemaid, chauffer, lover, and business partner all rolled into one handsome big dicked package. Sorry, not gonna happen.

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If she needed medical attention, doesn't she have someone close to her who would make a much better companion to take her to hospital:

OMG! I thought the exact same thing! I also thought this was a bit like a covert test of the guy to see if he's good enough to be with her.

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"Oh, wait love. Before we jaunt off to the Four Seasons would you mind terribly, darling, stopping by Bellevue so I can have my blood's lithium salts adjusted. You're SUCH a doll. Kisses, and all that!"

You are hysterical! I love you midlifebear.