Desensitized Penis?

javyn: if circumcision was good enough for Moses, it's good enough for me. wasn't he known for his snake staff anyway? :)

[quote author=junior15074 link=board=health;num=1069684910;start=20#22 date=01/14/04 at 0804] *When I had my foreskin, my dad who was circumcised, never told me how to take care of my foreskin (he didn't know either) I always wondered if someone did show me how to care of it, would it been necessary to have the surgery in the first place. *[/quote]

Well, like you, I'm the uncut son of a cut man. No one in my family knew what to do with it, so they did nothing, and I guess that was the best approach. I never saw my glans 'til I was about 9 or 10, I think the age at which the foreskin separates from the glans varies with each individual.

Fortunately I never developed any problems with mine, and still have it.

JDAtlanta: I hope I'm not coming in too late on this conversation but I just wanted to share my own experience here.

I went to see a urologist over this about 10 years ago and they didn't what to do about it or say about it. Of the 5 different professionals I met with, only one of them was brave enough to give what I had a name so that I could start to research it. He called it retarded ejaculation..being just about the polar opposite of premature.

There was very little information on that back in the day and the best anyone could suggest was seeing a sex therapist (they thought it had to be psychological) and starting what was at the time very controversial masturbation therapy.

Well, there was nothing wrong psychologically. I loved sex. And I loved it all the time with my wife, but the resulting lack of orgasm made her feel otherwise and after 13 years of marriage she was convinced that I was mentally fucked beyong all belief and she did what she felt she had to do and she is now my ex.

I have been with a couple of partners since that time. A couple of male lovers I have gotten off with but only because I haven't found anyone that I trusted enough to have anal sex with and so finishing up was always by hand. And that has never been a problem.

The first female partner I've had loved the fact that I could forever and continue to get her off. Our first time together was 6 hours straight on the same hardon and no climax. She knew my history and made no issue out of it so I didn't feel pressured. She told her friends about how long I go for (average is about 3 hours) and they all have various nicknames for me...one being The Lumberjack. Anyone got any clue what that means? I digress...

From what I had been able to find, some of the sensitivity going is blamed on hitting puberty so early and learning to masturbate at a very young age. Has anyone else heard anything like this? The tight circumcision is the first I've heard of that. Has anyone heard if there's a way to reverse that? I had once read about some ring "tool" that a bunch of folks were using the stretch the skin around the head and create a type of foreskin. Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?

[quote author=JDAtlanta link=board=health;num=1069684910;start=20#32 date=03/02/04 at 0840] *Of the 5 different professionals I met with, only one of them was brave enough to give what I had a name so that I could start to research it. *He called it retarded ejaculation..being just about the polar opposite of premature.[/quote]

JD, I suffered for a short but very distressing time from something similar .. the name I think for what I had is "ejaculatory incompetence", or so I discovered later. *Maybe it was very different in origin from what you faced, but the result was much the same. *I could not come.

It hit in my mid 20s. *In my case it was 100% psychological, and it coincided with the peak of my sexual performance and with when I began sexual activity in earnest (marriage). *I was so conscious of the force and amount of my ejaculations (easily in proportion to my size, in fact way in excess of what would be in proportion to it) that something deep seated in me held me back from letting go inside, it seemed too gross a thing to do. *I got over it in the end by making sure to have come by jacking off not too long before having sex, to reduce the force and amount. *Seems crazy, but it worked.

The same stratagem helped with my other problem, which developed as soon as I had got over this one - coming too quickly. * You'd think those two problems would be the exact reverse of each other, and I must be crazy to have had them both *:) *

But one was a psychological barrier, and when that was dealt with the other purely physical one soon appeared. *I think probably more men than might like to admit it have had problems in this area, and you are in good company. *Shame your ex hadn't the wisdom to help you work it through.