How do I make this thing work for me?

NineInchCock_160IQ: [quote author=Hapi Papi link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=15#2 9 date=03/29/03 at 22:19:32]

Wait... you're complaining about not getting girls then you complain about being used for your size by girls and you wrap it up with an advertisement sounding as shallow as the girls who have probably used you? ??? *Try looking for someone who can handle your love than your size.

Was that better?[/quote]

You obviously misread the post... which would explain your confusion.

H8Monga: Oh I see :-[ You said you wanted a girl TO use you. I inserted a "not" in there when i read it. Sorry.

But you know you're lucky regardless if a girl can't take it. It's eye candy and it's what they want. Even if you can't get it all in or they say they're having discomfort, they still have bragging rights. And I am surprised word hadn't spread; usually that happens. Come to Richmond, there are loads of girls I know who would probably love to give you a try.... just don't do anal....

About the other stuff, don't wear briefs... I tend to picture them for kids and geeky folk (if I've offended you, I'm sorry, damn the media!). Boxers... well I've upgraded to a larger size of boxers so I wouldn't be uncomfortable and I don't have your problem (I just hope my new boxer-briefs aren't too big and would drop off me). The toilet thing, well you got me there... I wouldn't want that but is it hard to lay it elsewhere?

Is it that important to be used? Wouldn't it be better to find love?

AnonyMs: Do not underestimate a woman's radar for knowing that all a guy is interested in is getting into her pants.

NineInchCock_160IQ: [quote author=AnonyMs link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 2 date=03/30/03 at 05:45:22]Do not underestimate a woman's radar for knowing that all a guy is interested in is getting into her pants. *[/quote]

Oh yes. Women are just amazingly astute. I am reminded of this every time I go to any club/bar/rave.. watching the interaction between members of the opposite sex there.
Typical Neandertal male who frequents these places: "hey, I just got my dick pierced... wanna see?"
woman he's chatting with: "okay!"
Neandertal: "wanna go out on the dance floor and 'dance' so I'll have an excuse to rub my dick all over your ass?"
woman: "okay. wow, you're so witty!"
Neandertal: "say, I'm bored of dancing.. wanna go back to my room where we can say hello to my roomates and fuck in the bathroom?"
woman: "sure, you seem to really respect me for who I am"
2 weeks later:
woman: "I don't understand why I can't meet any decent guys!?"

::) pardon the sarcasm. Obviously the above was a little bit of an overstatement.. but it gets on my nerves that I see similar things happen all the time. Women all say that they are looking for nice, sensitive, intelligent guys... but what they go after are the assholes with five word vocabularies, tatoos and big pecs. Nice, sensitive, intelligent guys are there but they get ignored. As for women's ability to discern if a guy wants to get in her pants... here's a hint: EVERY guy wants to get in your pants, we're biologically hard-wired to want this, if your radar detects otherwise... it's defective. If we say we don't we are either in a complex stage of denial or we're lying. If we're able to convince you that this is not something we want then either you are in a complex stage of denial or we are really good liars. I happen to be a very shitty liar, oh well, no saavy radar-employing women for me I guess. Even if I am nicer than most guys, and much more generous in terms of what I'm willing to offer in a relationship, and legitimately interested in finding something above and beyond a physical relationship... just not afraid to admit that I would settle for pure physicality, and not afraid to admit that even in a more complex relationship the physical would still play an important role.

[quote author=NineInchCock_160IQ link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 3 date=03/30/03 at 09:50:11]As for women's ability to discern if a guy wants to get in her pants... here's a hint: EVERY guy wants to get in your pants, we're biologically hard-wired to want this, if your radar detects otherwise... *it's defective.[/quote]

Gee, uh, thanks. After your past few entries' attempts to draw attention to the nice guy finishing last, you just singlehandedly backhanded all the rest of us. So much for hope. >:(

Just remember, your experiences don't necessarily mirror the experiences of the nice guy population at large. I know I'm still single and doing my best to enjoy it. I like female attention and all, but I'm plenty busy otherwise; I just date when I can, and if I'm not finding Miss Right, oh the fuck well.

NineInchCock_160IQ: [quote author=DeeBlackthorne link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 4 date=03/30/03 at 1604]

Gee, uh, thanks. *After your past few entries' attempts to draw attention to the nice guy finishing last, you just singlehandedly backhanded all the rest of us. *So much for hope. * >:(

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I'm not sure what you're upset about here. Maybe that I seem to be championing nice guys but then went out and revealed to the public at large that all guys, somewhere deep down at least, desire sex from females. Even "nice" guys. If this is what you're mad about, then it must be because we have fundamentally different views of the world. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with sex.. or wanting it from your partner.. sex is a great thing that should be equally enjoyed by both males and females. I feel pity for the people who are too neurotic to really enjoy sex for its own sake- whether because they need to attach love to it, or because they need to feel like they own whoever they are having sex with, or because sex to them seems "dirty", or any number of other reasons. So.. from my point of view.. sex is healthy and good.. so the two-dimensional definition of what constitutes a "nice guy" that is so prevalent in junior high-school due to brainwashing from our abstinence-pushing authority figures.. (that definition being any guy who will go out with a girl and not have sex with her and be perfectly happy about this...) in my mind this simply doesn't apply. To me, what seperates the nice guys from the assholes has nothing to do with desire for sexual gratification. In my opinion it's got a lot more to do with a willingness to be honest about wants and needs, to be open towards and respectful of what your partner wants, to consider your partners' feelings before deciding on your own actions, and in sexual relationships- making sure your partner is receiving as much pleasure and gratification as you are.

Of course I could have misinterpreted your post and you might be angry with me for some completely different reason... you weren't being very clear. If it had something to do with my post causing you to lose hope... you should thank me. In the real world, hope is a liability. :(

mindseye: [quote author=NineInchCock_160IQ link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 5 date=03/30/03 at 17:42:04]I'm not sure what you're upset about here. *Maybe that I seem to be championing nice guys but then went out and revealed to the public at large that all guys, somewhere deep down at least, desire sex from females.[/quote]

I'm not speaking for Dee, but this is different from what you said previously. You lunked the 'biological hard-wire' copout.

I'm hard-wired to need sleep, food, and relatively warm temperatures. The suggestion that I[sup]1[/sup] socialize in no more an evolved manner than rutting mammals, that my brain is subservient to my hormones, is a pretty rotten generalization.

Guys who blame biology for poor manners are like the guys who decided blue balls was an excuse to force themselves upon women.

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[sup]1[/sup] who, by the way, am a guy who doesn't even deep down desire sex from females -- thanks for that slap...

Well, there are cultures where women are the active gender. In these cultures, men usually wear makeup, scars, tattoos, or any similar adornment.

There are also cultures with third or fourth genders, which has become a sort of "pop anthro" for gay intellectuals.

Oh, nature/nurture. We could speculate all day about if all men have this biological drive or if it's expressed differently in different cultures or if it's been selected for by some cultures and selected against by others.

[quote author=mindseye link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 6 date=03/30/03 at 1805]
who, by the way, am a guy who doesn't even deep down desire sex from females -- thanks for that slap...[/quote]

My sentiments exactly, Heath, And the sentiments of many on this board. In all honesty, I've never met a heterosexual man who wanted to fuck every woman he meets.

BIGBOYDAVE: [quote author=NineInchCock_160IQ link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 5 date=03/30/03 at 17:42:04]

somewhere deep down at least, desire sex from females. *Even "nice" guys.
Humm I myself and I'm sure lots of Gay Guys on here and elswear would disagree with you on this Point and I know lots of Gay Guys who would never even concider it

H8Monga: [quote author=NineInchCock_160IQ link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 3 date=03/30/03 at 09:50:11]

Oh yes. *Women are just amazingly astute. *I am reminded of this every time I go to any club/bar/rave.. *watching the interaction between members of the opposite sex there.
Typical Neandertal male who frequents these places: "hey, I just got my dick pierced... *wanna see?"
woman he's chatting with: "okay!"
Neandertal: "wanna go out on the dance floor and 'dance' so I'll have an excuse to rub my dick all over your ass?"
woman: "okay. *wow, you're so witty!"
Neandertal: "say, I'm bored of dancing.. wanna go back to my room where we can say hello to my roomates and fuck in the bathroom?"
woman: "sure, you seem to really respect me for who I am"
2 weeks later:
woman: "I don't understand why I can't meet any decent guys!?" [/quote]

No no! That's HOW it works! Every time! I've noticed women always say they want what you said "nice, sensitive, intelligent guys" and like clockwork, get drawn to the opposite. The good guys who are passed over are more marriage material. Nice guys are like fine china reserved for that special occasion while the rest are paper plates.


[quote author=NineInchCock_160IQ link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 3 date=03/30/03 at 09:50:11]*As for women's ability to discern if a guy wants to get in her pants... here's a hint: EVERY guy wants to get in your pants, we're biologically hard-wired to want this, if your radar detects otherwise... *it's defective. *If we say we don't we are either in a complex stage of denial or we're lying. *If we're able to convince you that this is not something we want then either you are in a complex stage of denial or we are really good liars. [/quote]

I think that most nice guys would not expect sex right away. The Neanderthal or prettyboy with the pecs and tattoos etc that do not fit the nice guy category are the type who like one-nighters or the 3 week relationship filled with "love." But guys eventually would want sex. I'm a nice guy and a virgin, but if I would finally get a girl to even notice me instead of those others, I wouldn't want it right here and there. It'll be a while and I am curious so eventually...

But girls do have a knack for picking up the good-looking liar, user, abuser, two-timer, thug, [insert negative persona here], or general low-life... maybe it's the sewing wild oates thing? Go through all the bad to appreciate the good? Man's final frontier: Women's brains!

AnonyMs: okay, then, how about this:

never underestimate a woman's ability to know when a guy is really, really bitter?

OR

never underestimate a woman's ability to know when a guy has over-estimated what a nice guy he is.

AnonyMs: [quote author=DoubleMeatWhopper link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#3 8 date=03/30/03 at 19:54:38]In all honesty, I've never met a heterosexual man who wanted to fuck every woman he meets. [/quote]NineInchCock does not want to bed every woman he meets... only the cute ones.

H8Monga: [quote author=AnonyMs link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#4 1 date=03/31/03 at 0406]okay, then, how about this:

never underestimate a woman's ability to know when a guy is really, really bitter? *

OR

never underestimate a woman's ability to know when a guy has over-estimated what a nice guy he is.

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There's no winning is there?

[quote author=AnonyMs link=board=relationships;num=1034747082;start=30#4 2 date=03/31/03 at 0446]
NineInchCock does not want to bed every woman he meets... only the cute ones.
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That's usually how it works...

NineInchCock_160IQ: whoa, got your attention did I? :)

rapid-fire replies: mindseye: you're full of crap, you're welcome for the slap- you probably needed it and a few more; jonb: you're right, nature/nurture.. cultural differences.. interesting subjects though you didn't feel like getting into them in depth apparently and niether do I; DoubleMeat: not what I meant; BIGBOY: thanks for stating the obvious. For gay males, this applies to wanting to have sex with men, not women; Hapi: you're a virgin so you obviously have a bit of a skewed perspective, but I agree with some of what you said, thanks for sharing; AnonyMS: I'm not bitter though I realize I probably often come across this way.. I'm just a realist like I said (maybe there's not much a difference?). As for what a nice guy I am.. if you knew me really well in person you'd think differently. I tend to be a bit more of an asshole online. In person I'm the nicest guy you've ever met. Really. ;D