Size and Losing One's Virginity

long_knight2001: Does anyone else have mixed feelings about how they lost their virginity and wonder whether or not their size might have been a factor in the 'when' and 'who with'?

I lost my virginity to a neighbour, a married woman on our street, when I was 16. Although they had no children, she and her husband had a pool in their backyard. One summer she offered to teach me how to improve my swimming. She was a very kind and loving woman, and, to my lustful 16 year old eyes, looked great in a swimsuit. I developed an incredible crush on her, and looking back on it, I realize she was, to some degree, 'smitten' with me as well. She'd smile and I'd melt.

On several occasions she comented on how my swimsuit didn't do a very good job of keeping "how big you are down there" a secret. To make a long story short, one afternoon we had sex in her bedroom while her husband was away at work.

It was a fantastic experience. She was quite enthusiastic about the size of my penis, and definitely gave me an educational and exciting 'inauguration' into the world of sex. It was the first time I realized that my size might be an advantage, and that some women might be attracted to it in a purely physical sense. It was great, too, because being my first time, for some reason, I lasted FOREVER -- much to her delight. Still, the fact that losing my virginity involved someone being unfaithful to their partner always detracted from the joy of the memory. At the time, I was wracked with guilt and thought I might be in big trouble. It's too bad, because she and I were never as close after that.

Am I being too naive and too uptight about this? Does anyone else have a similar experience? I can't help but think that my size had something to do with my losing my virginity the way I did. To be sure, this is NOT a 'my cock drove her to be adulturous!' story. I just wonder sometimes, in hindsight, if it might have been a case of a sexually frustrated housewife grabbing an oportunity to experience something different. I'm not sure. A few years later, they moved away, and I remember my mum and dad making a comment about how the woman had a reputation for being 'over-sexed' and that her husband apparently couldn't keep up with her or something.

-- Marc

bradleeM: Of course ! From what you wrote it had everything to do with it, plus the fact your bod was sexually appealing to her. What is wrong with that? Absolutely nothing!

You were probably bigger than her husband and she saw a chance to fulfill a need, to sleep with a cock that filled her up for the first time in her life. You fulfilled a fantasy of hers. And the fact that you were 16 and added to that fantasy.

You did not break up the marriage; who knows her hubby may have watched from the closet or some other place. Some couples get off on doing things like that.

Just remember it as a thrill you gave someone that you were sexually attracted to and you got your cherry taken, so it was a win-win situation. No one got hurt.

She got to ride the pony and that will always be a pleasant memory for her, just be thankful that you were the one that gave her pleasure one afternoon and rocked her boat in the process. She probably came more that afternoon than in many previous fucks before that.

Good Job dude!!

long_knight2001: bradleeM:

Thanks for your reply. Maybe I have too much of a guilty conscience. I should remember the good and forget the bad. People are human, flaws and all, and sometimes sex is just sex. Who knows, maybe you're right, maybe her husband knew her sex drive would lead to to other men (in this case boys!) and had accepted it and that they still loved each other a lot. Maybe no one WAS hurt as you suggest. Thanks for your thoughts.

Cheers,
Marc

janec2000uk: Hi Long_knight:

I understand why you might have mixed feelings about such an important moment in your life (i.e., losing your virginity), but on the whole your experience seems to be quite a positive one. Perhaps my morals are lacking, I'm not sure, but she sounds like she was just full of life and a very sexual person. Who knows what her relationship was with her husband? I wouldn't let that aspect of your 'inauguration' spoil the wonderful memory of the first time you made love to a woman. Isn't it a lot of young men's fantasy to lose their virginity with a more worldly and experienced woman?

It does sound like she was attracted to your size, at least intially, and perhaps your youth as well. I've never met a straight woman who wasn't at least curious about what it would feel like to be intimate with a well endowed male. Think of it this way, as the other respondent suggested, perhaps it was a win-win situation. Your first time was incredibly special, and you gave a woman a great deal of pleasure and sexual satisfaction. Be happy :-)

P.S. A young man with sensitivity, a conscience, AND a huge penis!!! You married? Lol.

jackinman: [quote author=long_knight2001 link=board=relationships;num=1054934748;start=0#0 date=06/06/03 at 14:21:00]
Am I being too naive and too uptight about this? *Does anyone else have a similar experience? *I can't help but think that my size had something to do with my losing my virginity the way I did. *To be sure, this is NOT a 'my cock drove her to be adulturous!' story. *I just wonder sometimes, in hindsight, if it might have been a case of a sexually frustrated housewife grabbing an oportunity to experience something different. *I'm not sure. *A few years later, they moved away, and I remember my mum and dad making a comment about how the woman had a reputation for being 'over-sexed' and that her husband apparently couldn't keep up with her or something. *

-- Marc[/quote]

Yes, you are being to uptight about this buddy. As bradleeM mentioned you were probably bigger that her husband and like you mentioned, she had a reputation for being "oversexed". In fact I think that even if you weren't a big size, she might've had sex with you anyway. Your hung status was a HUGE bonus, pun intended.
However, if you were 16 y/o at that time..she might have committed a crime. I don't know what the age of consent is in your state but, I'm pretty sure is not 16.

[quote author=jackinman link=board=relationships;num=1054934748;start=0#4 date=06/06/03 at 1554]I don't know what the age of consent is in your state but, I'm pretty sure is not 16.[/quote]

Why are you so sure? 16 actually is the age of consent in half the states in the US.
I admit that I was below the age of consent when I 'misplaced' my virginity. I'll spare the details to avoid offending anyone, but I am sure that my size had nothing to do with it.

H8Monga: >:( >:( >:( *storm clouds gather, lightning strikes* >:( >:( >:(


You have a guilty conscience for a reason. it was NOT a job well done, nor a win-win situation. It was still an immoral act even if it didn't maim or kill anyone. You don't know if she felt guilty afterwards herself. Maybe that put unseen strain on her marriage. It could have done a lot you didn't know about. Yes, size had everything to do with you being USED... but you were a naive horny kid... it's easy to be used at that age with those "qualities."


BradleeM, the following really didn't sit well with me: You were probably bigger than her husband and she saw a chance to fulfill a need, to sleep with a cock that filled her up for the first time in her life. You fulfilled a fantasy of hers." I probably should mention that as a disadvantage to not being hung. WOmen do this a lot I have learned. How the hell am I supposed to accept what I have when women creep like that? That poor man probably thought she loved him with all her heart and it was not so. That was not a win-win situation for him. I know you'd kill the man who stole the one you love all because of something stupid.

*Investing in that strap on* At least I'm black and have that stereotypical rhythm to add to the experience with the strap on.

thingsteal: I don't know if 'size' was a factor beforehand but it definitely was once she got my pants off and started sucking on it. I remember she wouldn't shut up about it.

She had a reputation for being 'easy', even at age 17. We were sort-of friends before and had some similar interests. She had a party at her house one night while her parents were away and I got way too drunk. Later I found out that both she and another gal were kind of fighting over who was going to have me after I got myself plastered.

The trouble was that I wasn't even fully hard when she was commenting on my size. Like I said, I was very stupidly drunk.

We eventually had sex after I ate her out (which REALLY impressed her and got her off!!!!) and I insisted on using a condom which she was pissed off about. She clearly wasn't on the pill because she would have mentioned it and I didn't want to have babies at age 16. Plus this was the time right after AIDS became a big story in the early 80s. Who knows who she had fucked in the past?

I didn't get off, but I fucked her for a good long time. If I hadn't been so damn drunk and had that tight little condom on I probably could have gotten off too. She seemed willing to swallow too because after we stopped having sex she took the condom off and went back to work and was pissed when I didn't cum.

Never fucked her again. Had a terrible hangover the next day. We remained occasional acquaintances through our college years. I think she liked to fuck a lot of different guys just for the hell of it. Who knows? I never told her I was a virgin either. She certainly wasn't!

SpeedoGuy: Size did not play a role in the loss of my virginity, at least it was not initially something that either of us considered relevant. My partner and I were so eager to lose our respective cherries that there were a lot of things we did not consider. We proceded exactly as you might expect from two inexperienced teens driven by a mixture of curiosity, horniness, affection, and daring. To my surprise she took a more aggressive role in facilitating the whole adventure than I did.

Size did become relevant when our first attempt failed. The most likely reasons for the failure were the usual suspects: nerves, ignorance of technique, lack of lube. But size (particularly head size) contributed as well. A bit of practice eventually eliminated all these roadblocks.

SG

Hey man definitely your big dick had everything to do with u losing your virginity at 16. I lost mine at 16 too when i fucked this guys mother who told me she kept overhearing her son's friends tease me about how big my dick was and saw for herself... all summer long. Fuck the guilt. They wanted us.

[quote author=Hung11by6 link=board=relationships;num=1054934748;start=0#9 date=06/08/03 at 1109]Hey man definitely your big dick had everything to do with u losing your virginity at 16. [/quote]

What? You think that small and average guys don't get laid at 16? Size is not necessarily the reason.*

This is exactly the kind of attitude that causes people to think that we're amoral sex fiends. If you want to be a pig, by all means, enjoy. But don't encourage others to wallow with you. Principles are what make us civilised.

H8Monga: However Dr. Whopper, those 16 year olds who are small or average don't have people's mothers chasing them for their size. If they do have sex, it's because they've found "love" or are just dumb and horny.

thingsteal: Like I said, my alleged "size" was not an issue until she pulled down my pants. I'd never been with another chick before, other than a kiss or two. It's not like I hung around all naked with my friends then. It was a couple of years before I was skinny-dipping at parties.

I heard from chicks who I was friends with about certain guys who they heard were either average or "teeny weenie". And these guys got laid! That pissed me off because here I am having to hear about Joe Schmoe on the football team with 4" hard, banging a cheerleader or getting a blowjob. I was about 8 1/2" at the time, so I knew what I had.

But what are you gonna say in that sort of situation to chicks who are just your friend and who I don't want to bang? Are you gonna say, "Oh, Joe Schmoe is only 4 inches? Well, I'm 8 1/2...." No way. That isn't going to come up. Because they're either going to think you're lying or they're going to be grossed out. Life isn't like a porno movie. I'm not going to be asked to whip it out just to prove I'm bigger, and anyway what does that prove? But at age 16 to know some asshole jock who was 4" and came in about 20 seconds was banging some hot chick, well that would piss any straight guy off, especially a hung virgin.

No-way: Me and my ex, who was my first and I hers, had troble the first time trying to get it in. But after a second, third, and after the fourth try, we were sucessful ( we used lube the fourth time so it was a little easier to get in, although it was thight as hell, and so was the condom!!) We eventually broke up for other reasons, but we still get to together and hook up every now and then, even though she has a new guy who she say's she likes a lot, yet still misses me! But I do wonder sometimes if me breaking her in affected sex wit the new guy, since he's suppose to be only 6 inch's ( by eye standards!) Does anyone here still has sex with there first one? ???

H8Monga: I am confused thingsteal... hung guys don't like unhung guys getting the break for once?