Is jerking off a part of a normal sex life?

AnonyMs: [quote author=benderten2001 link=board=relationships;num=1042771047;start=15#2 9 date=01/26/03 at 19:37:12]
--Why can't it be left to the individual and/or couple?
No doubt, each of us is different as to what it takes to keep this part of our lives in reasonable balance.[/quote]Granted, each couple should work out what works best for them...

hung: This is an opportunity to state that "Normal" can be only found as a cycle on a washing machine.

Normal for me is entirely different for me than it is for you.

Normal for myself is satisfying sexual activity at least three times a week, not that I maintain accurate records nor have a defined goal. But I will also be the first to tell you that I also enjoy self pleasuring myself on average at least once a week also. I am a normal male?

Again, normal for me at my advance age would be laughed at by a teenager or someone in his twenties. Also, I recall with great satisfaction that on my honey moon some years back that the magic number was seven for the "First Night." Sweet memories.

In summary - Normal - a concept that is difficult to comprehend because of so many variables. I am normal, just as you are normal.

A woman professor of mine told me something real interesting. She said that most guys have emotions that are connected to their fantasies when they masturbate. So when we jerk off as boys we create a fantasies that get us off the best way. Then when we get with a girl friend, it's a lot different because we can't control what's happening with a real person. Like we have to respond to her needs. I think that's why we like masturbating so much because it's fantasy that gets us off good every time in the same way. It's not better than real girls,it's just quick & easy.

Also, it gets rid of the old sperm, and keeps the prostate healthy. In fact, they'll tell you to masturbate and then abstain entirely for four days before testing your sperm count or donating sperm.

ceg1526: The way this conversation should have gone:

"Do you ever jerk off?"

"Yeah, I'm always thinking of you, I get hard, and have to jack off or I'll never get back to doing something useful." Look sheepish like she's found your biggest secret, and grab her and give her a kiss. Maybe this will keep her quiet, and maybe this will lead to something where you don't have to jack off for another hour or so...

You're complimenting her, telling her she's needed and not challenging her as you do further into the conversation you typed in. That conversation was not really about sex, it was about feeling wanted.

Believe me, I hate those conversations too, and I always go for the redirection. Try not to get into the numbers game, and don't be obviously evasive.

Good luck

Ceg

Rusty2kma: Masterbation is a part of a normal sex drive. Not only for men but for women too. I masterbate at least three times a week.Its not that my fiance can't satisfy me.But its like someone poted earler. Its something I can control myself with fantasies.
I would just like to point out.Some women enjoy watching their other 'jerk off'. I'm one of them. I find satifaction by watching my fiance jerk off in front of me without touching me. But then again,I'm a woman who can acheive an orgasm without being touched.

mekkler: 99 out of 100 people do it, the other one's a liar.

[quote author=mekkler link=board=relationships;num=1042771047;start=20#3 6 date=07/16/03 at 16:44:45]99 out of 100 people do it, the other one's a liar.
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Or a eunuch.

[quote author=jonb link=board=relationships;num=1042771047;start=20#3 7 date=07/16/03 at 1838]
Or a eunuch.[/quote]

According to the memoires of a couple famed castrati who sang in Baroque operas, even eunuchs stroked the weasel. They experienced orgasm, but their sexual development was halted before they began producing semen. Farinelli was supposed to have been inordinately given to masturbation, and felt guilty afterwards, leading to self-flagellation for penance.

AnonyMs: man, you would think having been castrated at a young age would have been penance enough....

Trackers: This may be a little off topic, but I found the following article on the net (for those who have not read it before). Hope this would be of some interest to you guys and girls.


July 17, 2003

Prostate cancer - is the solution in a man's hands?
By Mark Henderson, Science Correspondent
THE solution to protecting yourself against prostate cancer could lie in your own hands, men have been told.

Australian scientists at the Cancer Council Victoria have found that young men who masturbate frequently are less likely to develop prostate tumours. Their study shows that the more men ejaculate between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to suffer from the most common male cancer. The protective effect is greatest for men in their twenties, with those ejaculating at least five times a week being one third less likely to develop aggressive prostate cancer in the future.

Masturbation, rather than sexual intercourse, was responsible for the beneficial effect, the scientists said. Graham Giles, who led the research, said regular ejaculations probably flushed out the prostate gland, preventing the build-up of dangerous carcinogens. "The more you flush the ducts out, the less there is to hang around and damage the cells that line them." He said.

In the study, reported in New Scientist, Dr Giles's team asked 1,079 men with prostate cancer and 1,259 healthy men of the same age to fill in a questionnaire about their sexual histories, including levels of masturbation and sexual intercourse. The results showed a much larger number of ejaculations in those free from prostate cancer. This was surprising, because previous research indicated that having many sexual partners, or a high frequency of sexual activity, could increase the risk of the disease by up to 40 per cent.

The critical difference between the studies is that earlier work asked only about sexual intercourse, not about masturbation. Dr Giles said that the latter activity seemed safe and beneficial to prostate health, while the former exposed men to increased risk.

bustyredhead: rofl That sounds like some weird karmic retribution for the young studs out there or something. I wonder then, if a guy masturbates as much as he has sex, do the effects cancel out? lol

Anyways, I don't see there being any problem with masturbation as being a regular part of one's sex life. Heck, I find that it can be fun to watch or perform sometimes, so it's just another (particularly healthy) activity. lol

- Nene (Two Fingers Aren't Just For Typing)