Is jerking off a part of a normal sex life?

sammygirly: Well...yeah...I really don't see a good reason to spread the information through her social group....because she certainly wouldn't like it if he told all his buddies about how she is obsessed with shaving below...or something like that.

I guess it's a lot more laid back for us gay dudes. When my bf asked me if I whack off every day more or less, and I answered "yes," his response was, "Cool! Can I watch?" My response, "Sure, if I can watch you, too!" We're both guys, so w know the score! ;)

hey DMW,

i thought masturbation was flying solo. ;D

jay

It is ... but you can watch someone else fly solo without trying to take control of the joystick yourself! :D

mekkler: Of course it is!

And, by the way, 99 out of 100 people do it and the other one is a liar. That joke is at least 10,000 years old!

That 99/100 rule applies to the girls too.

AnonyMs: Guys, guys, guys.... take note here.... when you tell a woman with whom you are intimately involved that you whack off more than once a day, and she increduously questions why, tell her that you were thinking about the last time you were together and it was so incredible when she <fill in the blank>, you got so excited you just had to take care of business right then and there. Make her think that you whack off because you find her so terribly exciting and sexy....

It is okay to be a sex fiend if you are only a sex fiend because you are thinking about her... and you are too considerate to initiate physicial intimacy with her each time, knowing that her needs may be different.....

AnonyMs..

damn, why didn't i think of that....it is so obvious.

thanks,
jay

sammygirly: LMAO @ AnonyMs.

So true...

Curtis: I just tell my wife that I was thinking about an old high school girlfriend, or that cute waitress with the nice ass... and I decided it would be better to masturbate than have an affair.

But AnonyMs is right... it's better to lie.

Curtis

AnonyMS...

I hope you can see already just how much YOUR suggestion was appreciated! (pretty good idea, too!)

--I wanted to point out though, my eyebrows raised at the term "sex fiend".... (I really don't think you meant that literally, but light-heartedly, perhaps--I hope?)

Many of us who have a higher-than-average sex drive (for whatever the reason--i.e. raging testosterone levels, equipment size and the constant reminder that "HE's there")---we just can't help NEEDING to relieve the tension (and the pressure) from time to time. It's not a matter of being a sex FIEND so much as is the urgency to just get some much welcomed relief so "HE" will finally behave! ;) and we can then resume life!

ORCABOMBER: Jay, well, at least you've got a girl! :D

Unfortunately, your first post does remind me of a conversation from Metal gear Solid 2!

But I mean, AnonyMs hit the nail on the head there! :)

Wait a mo... so what do women think about when fapping then??

sammygirly: ...the last time we were with you, and how it drove us wild when you <insert> that it got us so hot we had to take care of our business right then and there.

~smiles sweetly~

ORCABOMBER: [quote author=sammygirly link=board=relationships;num=1042771047;start=15#2 6 date=01/23/03 at 16:47:45]...the last time we were with you, and how it drove us wild when you <insert> that it got us so hot we had to take care of our business right then and there.[/quote]

What? Fall down the stairs? LOL!

Seriously though Sammy, things for the insight. <^.^>

AnonyMs: ..

[quote author=AnonyMs link=board=relationships;num=1042771047;start=15#2 8 date=01/26/03 at 18:48:00]
"... *what constitutes an 'average' sex drive? *I think many things influence the 'need to relieve tension and pressure from time to time'...

I think generally speaking, most men have a 'need to relieve' more frequently than most women.... *I always take it for granted that any man I am with, all things being equal - he is in good health, not under a lot of stress at work, in relatively good shape, etc.,- would ideally like to climax at least once a day and probably more than that."...[/quote]


You know, I'm trying to remember, too----what is an "average" sex drive? --I've seen suggested "ideas" in various essays whereby intercourse takes place once or twice a week per se.... so, it that supposed to be normal or average? And, says who?
I like what you said in that "many things influence the need"....So true.


--Why can't it be left to the individual and/or couple?
No doubt, each of us is different as to what it takes to keep this part of our lives in reasonable balance.

AnonyMs, you make good points in your latest post indeed.

My take though, based upon personal experience (and from what others have said here over the years) is that many men in the "larger" catagory seem to have even more urgent needs to "seek relief" than perhaps other men...that's all. Some days, it's like a constant "surging from within" -- a subtle (or is it?) reminder that there's still something that needs attending! --and, often (even though it's not debilitating to going on with life) this "urgency" does HAVE to be tended to somehow before there's any calm. (Please notice I said "many" and not "ALL" larger men and I will add too, that many men (who are at average in size) may also have just as much need, --or not.) So here again, it's very much an individual matter.

The original idea of this topic seemed to come from the "appeal" of us men to be given a break---some understanding that many times, we require additional means of relieving sexual tension beyond regular intercourse and that our gfs', wives', partners, etc. should not take offense when and if we do. Hence, neither side should ever really have to feel guilty.

It does appear, anonyMs...that you seem to be on the right track with your thoughts.