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Originally Posted by TattooedMamaMeg  I think that there is definitely such thing as too thin or too muscular. My examples are below. |
Even your "just right" guy I would like to have a little more body fat. Just a little. Actually, the just right and the bodybuilding probably aren't extremely different-- as Jovial said, bodybuilders flex and pump and all that junk to look huge.
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Originally Posted by systemshock3 I had no choice but to get bigger working out, as I have had thick legs and a thick ass all my life, but a fairly small waist. So if I wanted to look good, I was going to have to bring the upper body into proportion with the lower. I am 5'8", so mass is going to look fairly large on me. |
I've said before, there's a lot to be said about proportion, and looking good is always working with what you've got. That's one thing that is somewhat missing from popular dialogue about the human body (especially women) is the fact that not everyone is built the same and working with what you've got is the healthiest thing to do.
I've been attracted to men who are naturally stocky, though I just can't get with the guys who are wider than they are tall. I have two friends who are personal trainers and they are both in top shape, but they look extremely different. One has a naturally very slight build, and he's a small, slender guy. The other is not much taller but he's got a big build-- and he's huge. He's got massive shoulders and a massive chest and has balanced that out with powerful thighs and calves. With them it's not about being in shape, it's body type. I think I prefer somewhere in the middle.
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I look at the body-builders with mixed feelings (something I have been thinking on lately as I map out fitness goals for 2008). I think it might have something to do with male vs. female perceptions of why men bulk up or manipulate what their bodies look like. For instance, many of the women seem to believe that a man that puts a lot of work into his body really is going to be an asshole or someone who won't pay any attention to them.
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Honestly, I like a man with hobbies. I also like a man who is able to stay committed to something, so I've never felt that way. Some men do get caught up in their appearance in an unhealthy way the same way women can. But it's not part and parcel of being into working out.
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I know some gay men that think the same way, strangely enough. In fact, a good friend of mine (who is constantly trying to get my partnered off to someone..LOL) says he prefers his partner (5 years together) to have a bit of padding on them and NOT be into working out, so he won't leave. LOL...seriously, he was only partially joking here. I would, politely, ask those of you in this camp if there any sort of insecurities or concerns at work here?
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For me, no. My husband started working out about a year ago, and I like that he gets some attention from other women (and men). I wish he'd get a haircut, but that's beside the point. I like it when men I'm with look good. It makes me feel good.
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I like a man that puts work into his body, with a powerful build. He doesn't have to be Fitness model perfect (hell, my own body fat is greater than 10 %), but I like to have something substantial and firm to hold.
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This is interesting because it's something that comes up between my husband and I. I actually think that 10% body fat is too lean for my tastes. This is totally throwing a number out there, but I think I prefer closer to 13-15%. If he had his way he'd have 0% body fat and be built out of pure granite.
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I am kinda rambling, but I will say this: You could be right about the guy that works out being an asshole...but you might stop to think about why each individual guy works out. The answer will tell you a lot about if he is going to be an asshole or not :)
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I agree with this completely.
I'm inclined to agree. I think Jovial is pretty hot.
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Originally Posted by TattooedMamaMeg Ah... here's a good example of what I was just talking about. Muscular, but soft... |
I don't know if in real life that guy would be soft. I dated a guy who was built that way and he was all angles and muscles and bones. Not that it was a bad thing, though. He was actually pretty fucking hot.
Actually, these are some examples of what I like in a man ideally. The first one is build very similarly to my husband except that my husband is a little broader in the shoulders and narrower in the hips:
http://www.mightyjocks.com/images/accu3115bw2.jpg
This guy is pretty hot, maybe a litte too skinny:
http://www.piercemattie.com/blogs/me...wear_2xist.jpg
But this is all conjecture, I've never been one to throw a guy out of bed for not having a perfect body.