Originally Posted by RonsGirl

The adulterer-to-be and OP here...

Thanks for all the advice. About the adultery-to-be: I have been married for almost 20 years. My husband is a nice guy with zero libido. If you take the average sex life and match that to mine, I've had sex with my husband for about a year out of 20. If it's okay with you... I would like to know what it feels like to be a woman again and to be desired by a man. Especially by a man that knew me before I became sexless and numb. I am in my 40's now... how many opportunities do you think I will have to feel loved in this way again?? Maybe, just maybe, I'll be filled up enough to handle another 20 year dry spell. What do you think? It hasn't happened yet. Should I slam the door on this chance to feel again? Put away my desire and pretend I didn't just wake up from a long, dead slumber? I aplogize if I sounded like it was only carnal sin I am interested in, but I want to rediscover the person I left behind and in the process it would be nice to please a man that has kept me alive in his heart for so long. Maybe I'll act on a concensus, so be honest with me. What would you do other than throw away a 20 year marriage?
PS: what, pretell, is an OP?