Hello

ronsgirl, My wife and i have been together for over 20 years, we have had many ups and downs, we take our vows to each other very seriously and if what you say is true i belevie you and your husband do to.

That would account for the no cheating up till now, so i have to ask, if you and your husband could rekindle the sex part of your life would you still want what your thinking of doing now? would you rather have sex with your husband and walk away from this, you say he's agood man and it sounds like you love him still, is this true?

My wife and i found out that we see and feel love diffrently, she has to have me say the words ( i love you ) and i have to see love.( a kiss but no words needed)

there a 4 ways poeple precive that they are loved the above is just two, my piont is untill we relized this and then made a effort to say it or show it nethier one was completely happy, at 1st it was hard because we really only think of love in the way we precive it. so to for me it whent like this.

i would come home say g'day to the old girl and maybe akiss or two, she would say she was happy i was home bla bla bla ( thats how it comes over to me because i need to see love so words do not realy sink in to my head when it comes to love matters)
so here we are both realy glad to be with each other but neither realy happy with each other because we percived love diffrently, so every thing we did together is ok but never great untill we started to show or say how we felt towards each other.

Things may not be this way for you but i would strongly look at the way you precive love and how your husband does, it may be that he shows or says it & you maybe the one that is the opperset. i have talked with many other couples that this was happening to, once they relized what was going on they made the effort and things get hot agian.

i hope it helps.