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Old 12-10-2007   #50 (permalink)
dikkiedik
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I've read all 49 posts and I'm confused about some reactions. Being nude is not a sexual issue for a child. I think it's good for a child to see it's parents nude. I remember the showers that my father took with me. Seeing him, made that I knew how I would look like when I grew older. I have even seen my father semi hard when he was soaping up. Fot me it was not sexual. He told me that a penis can grow hard and he showed me how to clean the foreskin. Again it was not sexual because I didn't know that you could use your penis for more than peeing. My mother showered with me and my sisters too, as my father did. We are all very easy with nudity.
As soon as it becomes sexual you have to stop. But if a parent has sexual feelings with his children there is something wrong.
I have brought up my children the same way as I was brought up. I am used to sleep naked. At the age of ~3-6/7 they used to slip in our bed early in the morning. Sometimes I had a hard one and told my kids to be carefull, so I turned on my stomac and had them close to me. It was nothing sexual for me, it just happens in the morning. Children played with me climbed on me, hit me in the crotch without purpose. It stopped the moment they didn't like it any longer. All the time my wife was around or in the same bed. She sleeps naked too and she used to bath/shower with our kids too.
Bathroom still is not a place we close doors. Any one is free to walk in. And if some one doesn't like it, we respect that.
For me this is a normal way to teach children about nudity. If you hide and close doors you make it special and children always want to find out more.
I think it's absurd that young men and women never have seen a nude guy or girl before. I have met many here on this side and most were American.
They didn't have a clue about what nudity is in real. Is that why it's made so sexual in US?
Most of all I wondered the advice to see a pedestrian to talk about having bath with your children ...... Can't you people use your own heart? your own parental feelings????

Steve, enjoy your children. I'm sure you are a good father for your daughter and you will also be for your son to be born!