"Straight, bi or gay"

iamflameretardent: Hi

Just wondering if you are straight, gay or bi. I myself am gay - just want to see what the rest of you guys are?

Um...not sure, since,
Until i was about 26, I was bi.
I had girlfriends sometimes, and boyfriends sometimes (although..never at the same time)

i just turned 33, and i havent
been with a woman in seven years, so...i guess i'm not all that bi anymore.
I call myself gay now, since i'm exclusively with guys.

Straight.

Pecker

Javierdude22: Let me be the first peculiar one :)...

I'm....well....undecided....so i filled in Bi.
Issues issues issues

But it either stays bi, or straight...ive got a great relationship now...which happened to be a guy, but i dont see myself with other guys...the gayness in guys just turns me off...weird huh...and girls will always steal my heart i guess...

uhm....so far my vote :) :)

Javier

norseman: A bi-guy here. While I definitely enjoy sexual encounters with guys (it can be SO intense), I've never wanted to find some guy to spend the rest of my life with and start picking out curtains. There's something about being with a woman that "completes" me. Actually I think more guys would admit to being "bi" if they were more open to the possibility and not in the straightjacket (pun intended) that society imposes.

kyle: I'm pretty much the same as txqis except I still maintain my bi status - mainly because, for me, it's always been about love. 8)

suitinthecity: I don't think much of labelling peoples sexuality - these labels tend only to be about who we're currently shagging! Sex though is just sex, and most relationships between two people exist due to something other than just sex - more of a meeting of minds and souls than pink bits! If I had to label myself though I would say I was bi - not because I've had and continue to have sex with both guys and girls but because I have no preconceived notion of the sex of the person that I would one day hope to share the rest (or a large part anyway) of my life with. I am presently single, but have had longer term relationships with both sexes in the past (4-5 years).
I guess I don't get some of the posts here from guys that say they have "relationships" (presumably good relationship - why be in it otherwise), with a guy at present but won't feel whole or complete until they are actually in a male/female relationship. Can't help but feel you guys are misleading either yourselves or the person you are with - do they know how you feel?? Don't you feel kind of empty and dissatisfied emotionally?

Anyway - lets not label anyone!

i agree, kyle,
it is about who i'm in love with.
And for the last
seven years,
ive been in love with a guy.

suitinthecity: But unlike you txqis, Kyle says he maintains his bi status because it's "always been about love"? Does that mean he can't or won't allow himself to love a guy - I think that's sad.

Javierdude22 similarly says he has a great relationship with a guy, but that girls will always steal his heart.

Sorry guys - I'm getting all worked up over this! You say you have great relationships but how can they be if you only see them as temporary??

maybe this is being misunderstood...

"all about love" i took to mean the
same as "all about the individual"...WHICHEVER
sex you happened to have fallen in love with.

Not that you WANT to fall in love again,
but (i know all too well) partnerships
and relationships end sometimes.

Being with my guy makes me happy,
so...i dont intend to love anyone else.

Labels, schmabels. Calling myself gay might be labelling myself, but I'll continue to do it. It's an easy way of letting people know that any romantic and/or sexual attachments I have are directed at men rather than women. I'd rather just say, "I'm gay," than get into a discussion on the Kinsey sexual continuum scale. And by the way, in my view love is the most important aspect of my sexuality. I am in a loving relationship with my boyfriend and don't foresee it ending any time soon.

Alligator_Jack: i thought kyle was in a long term relationship with a guy, from what ive read, or maybe my bad memory is acting up

At this point in my life, I feel inclined to agree with Norseman's sentiments most of all.

I have no qualms about being bisexual. I'm pretty proud of my own progress through it, I guess; that I learned of how it's a part of my life, but by no means the only part. I'm satisfied with having run the full circle with men, I guess. I've fucked around with 'em, dated a bit, and have had a serious relationship with one.

I guess I can sympathize with Norseman best because he described it perfectly: that while I'm okay with being with another man, I suppose I haven't met the one that has swept me off my feet just yet. He might be out there. He might not. But in a similar note, I feel compelled to seek out female companionship with greater preference right now. I guess that's the tough thing with trying to reconcile such a label with how we behave and feel as bisexuals. That labelling's so simple for people who are predominately homo- or hetero- because, chances are, society expects a gay man to go after other gay men and for a straight man to seek out a woman. Barbie hooks up with Ken. That's how it works.

As a bisexual, it's difficult to make my interests and feelings so clear-cut and dry. With respect to DMW's case, it's not necessary to drudge up the Kinsey scale 'cause 99.9% of the time, he's a 7 and damn proud of it. Not to say that my sexuality is fickle or undefined or that I'm a definite 4-guy, but it seems like the only other people who really understand the peaks and troughs and swells of my various attractions are other bisexuals.

Straight. I experimented a little in the past, but quickly decided that men are ugly and women are pretty and that was that.

Since then I've been in a few threesomes with a couple in which the guy touched me, but I didn't touch him back. Those were the ground rules.

HotBoiLA: i'm gay...though have been wanting to have a mfm 3way lately...haven't been with a girl in about 10 years...would be fun again.