"Straight, bi or gay"

norseman: Well said Sammy,
I think that potential partners when faced with the issue of a bisexual mate suddenly see double the chances to be cheated on or left in the dust, but fidelity is fidelity. A "straight" (whatever that is) partner agreeing to a monogamous relationship should be absolutely the same as a bisexual partner agreeing to a monogamous relationship. Just because we're capable of .....doesn't mean that we hafta have it. Then of course, we can always look !

Javierdude22: Ok...ive been reading up on all you guys posts, and i totally agree with you...

One question comes to mind though, and maybe i should stick to today and not look to far into the future, but this is osmething im worried about for myself:

What do you think your life will look like?

And i mean that relationship wise....will we ever be completely satisfied?

I can be faithful sexually...thats not a biggie...but im kinda worried that neither sex will make me totally happy mentally

Javier

Solis24: It's an interesting question although one that I can't reply to because I'm not keen on drawing a precise portrait of what I would like my future to be like. I just find that any amount of expectations just increases the chance of you turning out to be disappointed in the end so I avoid expectations while still setting myself directions in which i wish to evolve. The only goals I have right now are to do the best i can about myself, to eventually have children and to get a job that will satisfy me. C'est tout.

As for the previous part of the thread, I consider myself to be gay, although I believe that the only fixed aspect of these bloody labels is in our minds. "Once you put a label on something, it becomes an 'it', like it's no longer alive...". I kinda like that quote. In my late teens, after i came out and assumed my sexuality,I used to be awfully turned off at the thought of a naked woman or worse even, at the thought of having sex with a woman. In those times, I twice had the opportunity of having sex with a woman (just needed to reach out and grab) and seriously did not feel like it. Now I feel different. Although my feelings for women now are nowhere strong enough for me to go out there and seek out a woman, I am not turned off my the idea at all anymore and could even picture myself trying it out someday, not having the slightest clue where that might lead me. I might be bi someday, I might fall in love with a woman, who knows. One thing's for sure, if ever I want to have kids, it'll make things a heck of a lot easier! lol

And finally, I think that bisexuality rocks. I just think it's more evolved. The kind where you can potentially be attracted to a man or a woman, basically falling for the human being, regardless of what genitals they have. Tear down the fuckin' fence! Build some roads with paths branching off every inch of the way!! lol

Javierdude22: I can see what you mean Solis, but maybe the question is more relevant to people that are somewhere in the grey area (a.k.a Bi)....

Youre confident about being gay, so then committing yourself mentally and sexually to a guy for you is the only option. You then dont really 'have' to worry about the future...

Its hard to explain but ill try to. The exact problem with me being bi, is the conflict between mind and sex. Both can enjoy each side, but also cant do without each side, making a committment very hard or realistically speaking almost impossible.

ThAts why i think about my future regarding relationships. I totally agree with you on not wanting to pinpoint myself to a set future. I wanna have all options open with regard to every aspect of my life. The relationship thing is different though...cause it can hurt people (my partner...but also my own happiness) along the way....does anyone know what i mean?

Laterz
J

sammygirly: I'll try to answer....

Yes, I am attracted to both sexes but I am in love with a Male at the moment. So, I wouldn't be unfaithful...that's pretty much been covered - but will He satisfy me fully, or can I go the rest of my life without having sex with another woman?

Yes, I think I can and yes I can be satisfied with that. I think it goes back to something I said before on another thread - I am in love with the person, not their sexuality. Making love satisfies me - so irregardless of which gender, while I am in love with the person....I will be satisfied.

Holy did that make any sense or am I rambling as usual??

I liked it.
makes sense to me, sammygirly.

Solis24: Javier... I'll try to continue my thoughts on this one although I won't be offended if I'm deemed to be talking through my hat, as I'm not bi myself, potentially I guess I am but in the facts I'm still gay.

Am I correct in understanding then that in a relationship with a man, you do not feel fully satisfied because you would need things that only a woman can provide, and vice-versa? I think you were the one who mentioned earlier having a hard time making your mind cope with the fact that you are with another guy. It just might be that once you can accept that your need a and attitude will change and that you in your entirety, mind and soul and body, will be able to accept either. I mean, having a hard time accepting part of one's sexuality is something that gays in denial know about (or eventually know about) and definately something that i can relate to. I used to find it weird and shameful that I would lust for other guys until I finally got over it and accepted that that is what I am, whatever society or members of my family might say...

And you know what? Maybe I'm waaayyyy off track here... Hope this at least helps to stimulate you in your process...

blo-gasm: I'm 21, 22 this year and straight.

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Dee's comments were very interesting as usual. I think for me I'd be afraid of getting too close to any guy emotionally. I'm 19, and straight but a little bent...and very horny.

jackinman: Hey I'm glad this thread has resurfaced, I think I missed this one along the way. Anyway here it goes. I can empathize with Javier whole heartily regarding the indecisiveness of what we should label ourselves. My situation is a little different from most of you. I label myself as bi right, however, I do not engage in any anal sex whatsoever, nor do engage in any fellation activities. I also do not tougue kiss other guys. But.....I do engage in j/o's with other guys and I seem to like that very much. But my real sexual stimulation (as it says under my handle name) is playing with guys feet. I'm sorry, but I don't want to gross anybody out because most of you are not into this and that is fine, but this is a huge fetish that I've had ever since I was a tiny kid. For some strange reason when I see a nice pair of guys feet my dick gets hard.
But i digress...
getting back to this thread......see I really dont know where I fall. Am I like on the low level of the bisexuality realm if there is such a thing? I don't know. So I too am kind of confused. But in concluding, if I have to label myself...I am bi.

Any thoughts will be most appreciated. Thanks for letting me ramble folks. This is my two cents.

Damn this beer is nice and coooooold!!!!!!!!

[quote author=sammygirly link=board=meetgreet;num=1050351452;start=20#34 date=04/17/03 at 05:48:12]Yes, I am attracted to both sexes but I am in love with a Male at the moment.[/quote]

Sammy, would you carry on a submissive relationship if it were a Female you were in love with?

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VeryWellHungTeen: I am bisexual more curious but have had more female relations than male ones.
I don't mind the concept of being but I guess I can be called a top for the male interaction, not that I mind playing.

Rusty2kma: Very bi-sexual.I like to have the best of both worlds.