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Originally Posted by njqt466  Maybe there is something wrong with how my brain works inconjunction with my heart. Either that or I must be the weirdest woman on the planet.  On the rare instance when I have expressed a romantic interest in a gay man. When he told me he was gay, I was able to shut off those romantic feelings. In my mind, falling for a gay guy is as pleasant and useful as spitting into the wind. In the instance of a straight man telling me let's just be friends. I usually just bail as it is far too painful to be his friend when he is dating other women who aren't anywhere near as good for him as I would be. |
Now why would you say something must be wrong with you when clearly you think quite the opposite! LOL! I am glad you are able to do that. Just some others are not. It is just the difference in how people are wired. Not good not bad just different. Yes the lets be friends thang is problematic at best. Lets face it . You are rejecting the person for some reason. You may not even wish to go there because it may not be PC but it is there. I think that some individuals genuinely care for the other person but they just might not be the one but they dont want ot lose the connection. I had one person tell me he had enough friends. I said Excuse me! LOL! This was someone I ahd been friends with in college who just showed up 15 years later and started moving straight to the wedding track without my knowledge or consent. It happens.